Can Interest Scales Help You Find Love?

Finding a relationship that works for you is a challenge. A challenge that the bravest endure and sometimes fail. But well, you don’t get to the finish point without having a few obstacles on the way. And you definitely cannot meet the love of your life without fighting a few dragons!

Dating has evolved tremendously over the past few years. We now have a world of possibilities that are just a tap away, yet we aren’t able to use much of the information to our advantage. The number one priority in the online dating scene has always been about the online presence and pictures of the person. Compatibility, on the other hand, has been either neglected or taken for granted in the present scenario. Compatibility is about the mutual interests or preferences between you and your partner. This usually establishes a long term potential in a relationship. You would most likely prefer someone who is as adventurous as you or someone who likes to snuggle and read a good book on a rainy Sunday afternoon than someone who does the exact opposite.

And that’s why on Aisle, we have ‘Interests’. To put it simply, Interests are your personal preferences and choices like shopping, cooking, gaming, etc which are depicted on an adjustable scale. Like most scales, you get a 1–10 pointer (‘10’ being the most interested) which you can adjust on how much you enjoy a particular activity. It’s a great way to talk about the pet lover or the avid sports fan you are, just by simply dragging the level! (Easy, right?)

These scales promote a form of interaction between Aisle members to know others better and connect with someone as like minded as themselves. However, as much as compatibility works for couples, there are times when it doesn’t have to. Compatibility doesn’t mean that the couple has to share the same interests to get along. He could be a coffee lover and she could be a tea person, yet they could still have the most fulfilling relationship. Finding someone who has the same preferences or values like yours, greatly improves your chances of getting along with your possible partner. At the end of the day, relationship compatibility is all about accepting and accommodating the different experiences of each other.

Here’s how you can make the most of ‘Interests’ on Aisle,

• They say honesty is often the best policy in all or most cases and this is no different. Exaggerating or lying about an interest is not going to help your case. Choosing a 10 for fitness, when all you do is lift the chips packet for the umpteenth time does not speak well for yourself.
• In those rare moments when you aren’t sure how to break the ice or how to carry a conversation forward, referring to ‘Interests’ is always a good idea. No better way to spark a delightful conversation than talking about the interests and preferences that you both share!
• Actions have always spoken volumes about a person’s character and preferences have always been closely associated with a person’s personality and how he/she perceives things in life. For instance, a higher rating on travel and party could probably mean he/she is an outgoing person who likes to meet new people and have new experiences.
• Ironically, finding compatibility with someone also means getting out of your comfort zone. According to Psychology, we should ideally pick someone who challenges us and helps us evolve. Sometimes, it’s good to be open minded about newer experiences and the new people we meet, instead of being picky and laying unnecessary constraints.