Have you made a decision yet?” is the one question I hate hearing. The world is full of too many options and too many decisions. I’m among those who hates shopping just because there are way too choices-colors, patterns, prints, etc and it’s frustrating when you only get to choose one. Is this your everyday dilemma? Well, join the club.
“If I can’t decide something as frivolous as what I should wear or eat, how can I make a life altering decision of choosing the right guy?”, I asked myself for the umpteenth time before I said “YES”. I’m sure we’ve all asked this question at least once in our life, “how will I know, if he’s the one?” and found no answers. You might be madly in love with this guy, but you aren’t sure if it might work years down the lane. You just hate shouldering this responsibility and you give this task to your parents or decide this is not your cuppa. Here’s something that might help you decide:
- You are always excited to see him– even if he’s in his PJs. You wait for his calls/messages even after months of being together. You need to share the smallest details of your life with him. You feel that a day is incomplete or end up having a bad day if you don’t see or hear from him.
- He makes sacrifices for you– If he decides to take you out on a date despite it being the most important match of the season, or takes time off work to listen to your woes, or does things he isn’t comfortable with simply because you love it, then he’s your man. Make sure, you are just as comfortable making the sacrifices as well.
- You feel absolutely comfortable around him even if you’ve been crying, having a bad hair day or stuffing your face in a cheeseburger. You aren’t conscious about the way you look or the funny faces you make. You feel absolutely okay in making a fool out of yourself just to get him to laugh. Who knows, he must be doing the same too!
- You aren’t shy or scared to introduce him to your parents. You can’t wait for him to officially be a part of your family. You already know that you’re dad’s gonna love him and he’s probably the only guy your brother trusts.
- He genuinely cares about your friends and the miniscule details of their lives. Let me tell you, it’s a task for guys to remember names. But if he remembers your gal pals names and is okay with you obsessing over their lives then he is the one.
- He makes out of the blue statements of how beautiful you are and how lucky he is to have you in his life. He doesn’t take you for granted and makes you feel special at every chance he gets. He has eyes only for you.
- He gets you…to the dot. You don’t necessarily have to complete each other’s sentences or coincidently wear matching clothes (though that works too), but he knows exactly when you need your space and is okay with silence. He senses what you need and does what is right for you.
- He makes you want to be a better person. Cheesy as it sounds, you feel empowered and positive when you are with him and you in return want to do good things. You feel a strange kind of inner peace and calmness knowing he is around and that you no longer need to search anymore.
- The future doesn’t seem so dark anymore. Infact it’s hopeful and bright. Things you never wanted to think about, are beginning to peak interest in you. You don’t mind thinking of the furniture, house, pets or kids as long as he’s with you. When you think of marriage, you think of your life together more than the wedding ceremony.
Everything said and done, love isn’t about the RIGHT ONE, rather it’s about the ONE THAT’S RIGHT FOR YOU. Yes, as unromantic as that sounds, Love is a big decision that you consciously make. Destiny and the Universe might have its small contributions but you sign the final deal. You decide who you are going to spend the rest of your life with. You choose this person over the billion people in this world simply because you want to and you think things can work out with him, even after the initial excitement and mushy feelings fades out. If you are comfortable around him and he makes you happy even after months (or maybe years) of being together, then he’s probably the one for you.
