The 3 pillars of relationship according to me

Some time ago, I met someone and after an initial meeting, I had to tell her straight that it had to end there and not continue anymore. I’ll not dive into the reasons but here’s why I think the 3 pillars of a relationship are Trust, Respect and Commitment. These are ideas I have formed the hard way from my past relationships.

Trust

Humans are doubtful creatures. Their brains can only know what it understands. Trust once broken can never be mended back because there’s no proof that it will never happen again. That’s why trust is the cornerstone of any relationship. What this also means is you have an equal responsibility uphold your trustworthiness.

Respect

Every person in the world is going through a journey of their own. We have to respect that. They have to take their own decisions. Others can only influence those decisions but not make it for them. Without this respect, relationships are bound to doom. I also think relationships are not endless. I think every relationship has an upper limit. It is up to the people involved to determine what that limit is. Because at the end of the day, you are your own person and they their own. It is when we force the relationship to go on for eternity that we end up in conflicts with the other person and one person sacrificing too much to save the relationship. What this also means is you have to uphold your own self-respect.

Commitment

If you want to increase the upper limit, you need to be committed to it and understand and make the sacrifices you have to make for an equitable relationship. What this also means is the other person has to be ready to uphold their level of commitment in the relationship. Through the good times and the bad, both of you need to work together to overcome challenges it until such a time comes it can’t be done anymore. It is then natural for people to separate. But I believe that all problems can be solved.