The Psychology Behind Why Healthy Love Feels Wrong

We accept the love we think we deserve

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Ever felt bored with someone who treated you right?

Don’t dodge the question. Have you ever been with someone available, consistent, who called when they said they’d call, and all you could think was “something’s missing”?

Yeah.

Here’s the problem: your brain was trained to recognize love in the wrong place. Like a dog that only eats when the owner yells. Silence? Won’t even look at the food.

And you’re that dog. You just didn’t know it.

When you grow up where love comes with conditions, where you have to behave to get a hug, where attention appears and disappears without any pattern, your brain does something brilliant and devastating at the same time: it learns. Learns this is normal. Learns love is this. And spends your whole life looking for exactly the same thing.

It’s like GPS calibrated to hell. Every time you get close to something good, it starts screaming: “Error. Route not recognized. Turn back.”

And you turn back.

You always turn back.

Know what’s most twisted about all this? Slot machines. Those casino machines where you feed coins and only win sometimes…