“Moderately Close”
Dancing Snail’s “Moderately Close”
Preface
An individual has constant relationships with others. However, the limited amount of energy an individual can afford is bound to add to the relationship. Just as you soothe your stomach with mild food when you have an upset stomach, you should empty your mind when you feel lost. It is a time when relationship detox is desperately needed.
In terms of relationships, there is also a need for the “appropriate” to relieve, empty, and distance. Too close is too much, too far is lonely. If your mind’s room is full and you’re hungry for a “real” relationship, it’s time to open the book.
The Quote
(“Is that so?” or “Or not”)
“When we meet someone new, we tend to look at them as if they are this perfect individual and we get excited to learn about them. It isn’t a bad thing to see the world with a positive mindset, but it is good to keep in mind that their perfection is only obscure and it can be healthy to be prepared for any outcomes of the relationship.“
“Times when nothing goes the way you expected and you are getting tired of being disappointed in others, you need the mindset of “is that so?” and “or not”.”
My Analysis
Starting from childhood, I knew I was a people person. I loved being around others and surrounding myself with people at most times. Due to my love for social interactions, I tend to be delighted when meeting someone new. This causes lots of disappointments and regrets from opening up to the wrong individuals. When I read this book, it tells me that overall, it is always perfect to have a moderately close relationship with others and anything beyond can transpire into toxicity. Even though being open and appreciating new entities are important, it is healthy to be ready for any possibilities to fall through including the negatives.
