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5 Books you need to read to Level Up

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Leveling Up, the art and experience of feeling like the sh**. It happens, you read something or you get told something and all of a sudden boom, confidence flows. I love this feeling, I’m addicted to this feeling. That’s why I don’t wait around to feel that way, I chase it. I read, watch and produce whatever gives me the tools to feel this way. Books are my go to, that and some niche corners of TikTok. It works for me, these books will work for you too. Read on to Level Up.

1. Hustle Harder, Hustle Smarter by 50 Cent

An unlikely role model for some, although we need to ask why. Why wouldn’t we want to look up to someone who survived 9 bullets and lived to literally tell (rap) the story? I’ve loved 50 Cent since I was 15 years old. Like I said, an unlikely role model for an anglo-Indian prepubescent schoolgirl, but a role model nonetheless. I watched his documentary, his resillience was something I learnt to hone like a beacon. I remember asking myself a lot “What would 50 do?” He would literally stand up, shake himself off and keep rapping. He lives and breathes resillience.

Hustle Harder, Hustle Smarter is about 50 Cents’ ethos to life. He talks about the importance of working hard. He understands the struggle, he’s lived it. He now tells us how to hustle in a way that gives you real results. He knows how to navigate people, how to be smart but also respectful. None of what he said was regurgitated self help stuff. He knows how to get results logically. He ends the book talking about what he calls a move towards “conscious capitalism”. The idea that successful people and corporations are contracted to give at least 1% of their profits to those who need it. If this isn’t a progressive work ethic, I don’t know what is. He reminds us to be smart, respectful and resillience.

His strategies are great, and there’s nothing like hearing 50’s audiobook ringing through your ears to get you motivated.

“So long as you project the confidence and energy of someone successful, it’s only a matter of time till true success comes and finds you” — 50 Cent

2. The Art of Seduction by Robert Greene

The title says it all. The Art of Seduction. Contrary to what some of us want to believe, we seduce everyday. The Art of Seduction helps women relocate their power back to us, the seducers. What seducer are you, Siren, Natural, or the Dandy? Theres 9 types of seducers and I promise you, you are one of them. Whatever it is Greene will help you identify it, give you iconic historical examples of each type and help you reclaim your power.

Don’t let the fact its written by a man put you off, Greene has an uncanny way of getting women right, an actual ally in helping women reclaim their power. His thanks to his wife in the acknowledgments says it all:

“thank Anna Biller for her… knowledge of the art of seduction, of which I have been the happy victim on numerous occasions.” — Robert Greene

3. Peace is Every Step by Thich Naht Hanh

Meditation, breathing, stay calm, relax blah blah blah. We have heard it all before. But what about changing the focus to cultivating and accepting peace. Thich Nhat Hanh does just that. Instead of trying to make us feel bad for not being relaxed, Thich Nhat Hanh makes us mindful of the moments where we can find glimmers of peace. The more we take ahold of these moments the more peaceful we become. And with a foreword by the Dalai Lama I think its safe to say this book is backed by the best.

“Peace is present right here and now, in ourselves and in everything we do and see. The question is whether or not we are in touch with it.” — Thich Nhat Hanh

4. How to Do the Work by Nicole LePera

Revolutionary literature for anyone dealing with trauma… so basically everyone. Looking at the body and mind holistically, LePera known fittingly as the Holistic Psychologist on Instagram looks to regulate and soothe trauma throughout the body and mind.

“The goal of my work is to provide you with the tools to understand and harness the complex interconnectedness of your mind, body and soul.” — Nicole LePera

The aim is to be more authentically and safely yourself by targetting the real physical and psychological manifestations of anxiety and trauma.

Ranging from the new theories of trauma to learning about boundaries, and the new craze of reparenting. A necessary book to thrive and cope in an emotionally unhealed world.

5. Attached by Dr Amir Levine and Rachel S.F Heller M.A

I call this the relationship bible. Actually for me it was the singleton bible. Reading this before starting dating again was vital for me. Not only did this book remove the blindfold I had over my eyes about relationships, it also validated my whole experience I had in my past relationships . Learn about all the different types of partners and attachment styles out there. Learn about your own attachment style.

Are you secure, anxious, avoidant or the rare disorganised attachment? Take a few days, read this book — relationships will finally make sense.

“All people in our society, whether they have just started dating someone or have been married for forty years, fall into one of these categories, or more rarely, into a combination of the latter two.” — Dr Amir Levine and Rachel S.F Heller M.A

For all the science heads out there, yes there is data and studies throughout the book.

This book revolutionises modern dating, I genuinely feel everyone should read it. The audible book is also amazing. This book is doing the rounds, everyones talking about it. It’s never too late to learn about your own attachment styles.

So there we have it, a thorough list of books that help me feel like the sh**. We all need to feel like a powerful human and these books help you feel just that.

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