Social Media Is Destroying Us All — The Khloe Kardashian Story
Khloe Kardashian caused internet mayhem when she requested that a photo of her be taken down from the internet. I take a look at what caused such a stir, and fundamentally, what the real truth behind that photo is.
Unless you’ve been living under a rock for the last however many years, then you will know who the Kardashian’s are. A power family, seemingly set on taking over the world with their family brand, all managed by self-proclaimed ‘Momager’ Kris.
The Kardashian’s are like marmite and ask anyone, they will be on one side or the other. I don’t have a problem with that — you can’t like everybody in life. That is fine.
What I do have a problem with, and what is fundamentally at the core of this whole Khloe photo issue, is the way in which people choose to voice that opinion.
For so long, and for far too long, women (and men), have been at the focus of ridicule for anything other than a perfect picture posted online.
Stretchmarks. Wrinkles. Grey hairs. Love handles.
The wrong clothes. The wrong shoes. Too fat. Too thin.
Must have had work done.
Needs to have work done.
Filters on social media apps are built-in as standard — a handy way to quickly change your face to blur out those blemishes — and we all do it. (Don’t deny it).
We are guilty of having looked at a photo and thought, ‘this isn’t the right angle’, ‘my x doesn’t look good there’ etc.
We all take multiple images before we post the one we are happy-ish with. Take a look at my profile photo on here, or anyone’s on anything, they are all the same.
We pose, we filter, we post.
When an average thirty-something such as myself, feels the pressure to not post certain images, then I can only imagine what the pressure is like for those women in the public eye.
Khloe Kardashian, for as long as I can remember, has faced a constant barrage of abuse about every aspect of her life and appearance. She was the ‘fat’ sister or the ‘ugly’ sister. Questions about her true parentage were even raised because she didn’t ‘look’ exactly like her siblings.
Can you imagine for one minute what that can do to someone’s mental health?
So, she did what everyone does, she posed, she filtered, she posted. She made sure that the image she put out into the world was the absolute best it could be. She wanted the world to see her at her best, her most confident, her most ‘beautiful’.
She lost weight and got in better shape to get healthier. She worked hard. All she got in return was accusations of having had surgery to achieve her results, with the world set on ignoring her hard work.
Someone recently, however, posted a photo that wasn’t staged and posed, and she has asked for it to be taken down. This is where it all begins. With one woman asking for control over what images of her are available online.
This seems to be what people have picked up on. They focus on the fact that Khloe seems to want to take down a photo that shows her ‘true’ self and somehow masks her identity with the continued posting of filtered selfies.
Khloe eventually clapped back to the accusations that she was too insecure to post the photo, and explained how her life has been full of criticism about the way she looks.
What people have failed to realise, is that it’s about so much more than that. Why shouldn’t she have the right to remove a photo which she hasn’t consented to be online?
If she were naked in that photo would people understand her wanting it removed then?
If it were taken by paparazzi, would people be more forgiving of her exercising her right to consent to what is put online?
Instead of people stepping back, and seeing it for what it is, it has become what it always does — a way to attack a woman for just being as insecure as the rest of us.
Some people need no ammunition when they start their attack on others.
Someone, I am a huge fan of is Vicky Pattison. Vicky has struggled with her weight over the years, and talks openly about her insecurities in her own body, but how she is focussing on gaining a better and more positive perspective on herself.
Vicky regularly posts photos that show the way in which a body can be manipulated to hide all the parts we want hidden and to create something which isn’t necessarily exactly what we look like all the time.
What Vicky also pointed out, is that when a photo appears online which isn’t flattering, then the haters start. What is most troubling about this is that the majority of people taking down a woman for her appearance are women.
When we’re already battling the male gaze objectifying everything about us, why on earth are we continuing to fight on both fronts? Why do women feel the need to bring down another woman for just being normal?
In a world where we shout constantly about the need for honesty in the media and applaud those who show the reality vs Instagram side of life, it saddens me that women still feel the need to constantly assess everything they put out online.
There’s enough anger and negativity and hate in the world. Before you post something about a photo that might show some imperfections, turn that mirror on yourself and remember that we are fighting battles that others will never understand, and then, just be kind.
We keep hashtagging #bekind but seem to actually forget to do it.
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