Commitment Costs

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Happy New Year!

We just started a new year, and as you know, there’s so much expectation, promise, and hope. Some of us have goals some of us don’t. Maybe we’ve written them down, perhaps we haven’t. We tell ourselves that “This year we’ll be more intentional,” or “This is the year. We’ll set our goals, and we’ll achieve all of them.” I’m all for having goals, but I’d like to ask you a question. Why do you think less than 8% of people achieve their new year resolutions or goals?

Discipline, clarity and intent definitely play a huge part, but what if we came at this from a new perspective? What if we made resolutions and goals with the understanding that commitment costs? What if we used our newfound insights to then factor in things we might have overlooked?

See, nothing’s really ever free. We trade in time to learn a new skill perhaps or to make money. We give money in exchange for clothing, food or a place to stay. We bear the risk of emotional and mental duress so that we can try our hand at a relationship. Everything costs something. To feel and look good, we have to watch what we eat and exercise regularly. To escape ignorance, we must learn and learn about better ways.

I believe that once we understand the cost of our commitments, we’ll be at a much better place to make informed decisions on whether to invest or not. Could you imagine the implications if we understood the costs involved instead of being stuck on the results?

If we understood the cost of the lack of empathy, maybe we’d be a little more understanding.

If we understood the cost of the lack of patience, perhaps we’d use things and value people.

If we understood the cost of the lack of intent, maybe we’d have more of us with purpose.

If we understood the cost of the lack of honesty, perhaps we’d have saved ourselves from so much pain, and we wouldn’t have wasted all that time.

If we understood the cost of the lack of unconditional love, maybe we’d have more people feeling, believing in and being in love.

If we understood the cost of silence, perhaps we’d have a much much more just society.

If we understood the cost of growth, maybe we’d have more of us trying new things, distinguishing what we like from what we don’t.

If we understood the cost of the lack of forgiveness, perhaps we’d have lighter, kinder souls.

If we understood the cost of privilege, maybe we’d be more caring toward our parents, caregivers and grandparents.

If we understood the cost of food, perhaps we’d be less wasteful.

If we understood the cost of the lack of kindness and generosity, maybe there’d be less need in our world.

If we understood the cost of being alive, perhaps we’d be happier even in the midst of challenges. Maybe we’d celebrate every day instead of celebrating on certain days only.

Who knows how different you’d be?
Who knows how different our world would be?

See, we need to be diligent with our decisions and I’m not just talking about the ones that are perceived as massive or life-changing. We need to be conscientious, starting with the little choices we make because life is a choices game. It compounds the decisions we make without bias.
We need to stop focusing on outcomes and understand the process. Addicts didn’t start out as addicts, just like the most successful people didn’t achieve their success overnight.

It’s the little things

Good choices will present a foundation on which to build on to make even better ones perhaps, while bad decisions will slowly dig a hole and by the time you notice, you’re in too deep.

As you start your year, I implore you to think for yourself.
Learn to make your own decisions.
Learn to deal with the outcome of your decisions.
Learn to assess the cost of a commitment.
Learn to accept failure as a sign that something didn’t work, instead of taking it as a sign that directly correlates to your skills and abilities.
Finally, learn when to walk away and when, to persevere because life is challenging, and you have to toughen up.

Take care. Be kind.



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