Five Reasons I’m Happily Single at 39

It’s not that I’m opposed to love or companionship, but after years of observation and a bit of introspection, I’ve found that single life suits me perfectly.

I am often looked at with Pity ( Lol I dont know why) but I am and I wonder if they understand why I choose to be single.

Here is why.

I’m Comfortably Set in My Ways

Let’s be honest, by this age, we’ve all developed our routines and preferences.

From the way I like my coffee to the exact order of the stuff I do in the morning, I’ve cultivated a lifestyle that works for me.

Getting another person into that equation often means compromise, and honestly, I’m not sure I have the energy or inclination to drastically alter my stuff.

I value the routine and what it does for me.

Building Rapport Takes Time and Effort (and I have neither)

Starting a new relationship requires a significant investment of time and capacity to handle drama.

Getting to know someone, understanding their quirks, and building genuine rapport takes effort.

After years of focusing on my career and personal development, I find myself less inclined to embark on the often-arduous journey of building a deep connection with someone new.

The initial stages of dating can be exciting, but they can also be draining, and at this stage of my life, I prioritise peace and stability.

I may have trust issues.

Life has a way of teaching us lessons, some of which are harder than others.

I’ve encountered my fair share of disappointments and betrayals, which have unfortunately (or fortunately ) left me with a healthy dose of fuck this, I don’t need it.

Building trust is a gradual process, and I find it increasingly difficult to open myself up to the vulnerability required for a successful relationship.

Women, like me, are set in their ways.

It’s not just me.

Even the women I meet, by this age, have their own set of experiences, beliefs, and expectations.

Trying to merge two fully formed lives can be a recipe for conflict.

I’ve observed countless relationships falter because of differing values or incompatible lifestyles.

The reality is that people are set in their ways and compromise is not always possible.

Relationships today Are Incredibly Fragile

Relationships are incredibly fragile.

They require constant tinkering and fucking about, constantly checking if all is OK and communication, and compromising on a lot of stuff.

One wrong move, one misunderstanding, and the entire thing goes down the drain.

I’ve witnessed the heartbreak that comes with failed relationships, and I’m not willing to risk that kind of emotional drain.

I value the stability and independence that comes with being single, and I’m not ready to trade it to be with someone just yet.

(I still do go on dates and catch up with women who think the same way though, we are human, we all need to hook up)

Ultimately, choosing to stay single is a personal decision.

It’s not about being bitter or closed off, but about recognising what works for me.

I need the freedom and independence that comes with living on my own terms.

Who knows, maybe someday I’ll change my mind. But for now, I’m probably living my best life yet.