Just a Reminder: We Don’t Just Have To. We May As Well.

We may. Why? Because we are allowed to.

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Believing in the effectiveness of good resolutions

is difficult for me because of the many psycho-biological dynamics. Too often people deceive themselves, mostly automatically, without even realizing it.

FOR THIS, resolutions are a great technique. So let’s better leave that.

But what to do instead?

After all, we are the “doers”, the women and men of action who want to make a difference and thus change the world! How can that be done without taking on something?

My suggestion: let’s make a wish!

We may wish for things, because that can work wonders — if used correctly.

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For example, I would especially like

that we begin to allow ourselves always to do what is really (!) important to us. Everyone for him- or herself. Everyone to his or her liking.

Yes, I know that my wish can come across quite utopian with all the presumed or actual constraints. All our daily duties, tasks and deadlines.

So, how it’s supposed to work now? After all, life is not a dream!

There is, of course, some truth to this objection. However, if we do not even allow ourselves to wish for something? For us? Secretly?

If we don’t even allow ourselves to wish and dream? What does this do to us? What does it do to everything that makes up our life? For instance, our future?

Or to our freedom, this — supposedly — so high good?

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It’s simple:

Only when give ourself permission to do what is really (!) important to us and what brings us closer to what we really (!) desire, only then do we allow ourselves to achieve what is really (!) important to us.

Only then do we take advantage of our only chance for success, which is to come close to achieving what is really (!) important to us (!) and also in the way we (!) want it to be for us and others.

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This is the only way

to use our personal freedoms for our own satisfaction and to shape our life with all our ability, will and being — and thus of course also that of our partners, our families, our fellow men and women, our colleagues, our teams, our companies.

According to our own (!) ideas, wishes and goals.

It’s easy to overlook this in the rush of everyday life, but:

We are allowed to do exactly that. And very likely, we even have to act this way. In order to be successful.

So, the more responsible we act this way for ourselves and our environment, the more successful we will be.

Again, it’s simple.

And anything but easy. Because we always have to fathom our possibilities anew. That is, the limits of our freedom. For example, by negotiating our goals and desires, our ideas of meaningful goals, right ways and best methods with the people we live and work with.

This means regularly stepping out of familiar waters, getting to know new things, new ways. Thinking, saying and doing things differently from what has been valid for us so far or — presumably — what is expected of us.

Then it means to start doing things differently, to express our opinions, to demand exactly what we (!) really (!) consider to be right and important.

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This can and will be exhausting and conflictual.

Obstructive patterns of thought and action must be uncovered and overcome. And any number of social, societal and also personal interests have to be balanced in a good, compatible way.

The effort is well worth it. Because it guarantees personal success and a maximally good and satisfied time.

Will we give ourselves permission to strive for what we (!) really (!) wish?

Will we allow ourselves to be what and how we (!) really (!) are?

I certainly hope so. Because: We may. We are free to do so.

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About the Author

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Edgar Rodehack is a teamwork enthusiast with a preference for Agile forms of collaboration. So it’s good that he does this for a living. He is an organizational consultant, business and agile coach, moderator and facilitator. Also, he’s married with three kids, and he really enjoys making music, writing and reading.

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