Why is kindness harder to take than bullying?
I find the presidential campaigns a fascinating show of different leadership ideals. I’ve talked about Trump’s leadership style. Now, let’s look at Bidens and the possibilities with a benevolent leadership style.
There is strength in kindness. It’s not about being nice or being a doormat.
One of my popular stories on Medium is the Time to stop saying bullying is ok. Ok? It might be due to the topic of calling out leadership for leadership, no matter if you’re one of the more prominent leaders of the world or not.
Yes, I referred to Trump in my story, on the leadership style he shows on any screens and apps near you.
Is kindness in leadership a weakness? Or, could it be the strength we’ve been looking for? Right now it’s staring America in the face.
Mainly I write about creativity and leadership, and sometimes the two are present in one story. However, this story is about (take a breath in) a good old-fashioned (breathe out) dignified leadership.
Can you stand talking about something good for a minute, instead of what you find mindboggling about certain people? You see, there’s strength in kindness. It doesn’t mean being a good girl or a doormat, of sorts.
This is the true meaning of kindness:
The Online Etymology Dictionary describes kindness originally as “with the feeling of relatives for each other”. As opposed to how others are different and estranged from you. Remember as children, we learned how things are different from each other in order to understand the differences?
As you teach children how green and red are different colours, you’re not done until you describe what the similarities are. And as a bonus, do a bit of wondering of what they have in common and how they relate to one other?
The basics of a leader
As a leader, your value set and how you see the world is as basic as it gets. The opposite is paying attention only to what you have right in front of you. This leads to pettiness in your leadership. Like driving a car in rush traffic. If you only look at the car in front of you, you’ll be frustrated on how slow it’s driving and the chances that you’ll crash into them increases. If you look beyond what is in front of (as best you can) and look a couple of cars ahead, you’ll have a greater understanding of the situation and consider putting on some good music or a podcast you like.
You are not alone on the road nor as a world leader. Your actions will affect other countries than the one you have in front of you and when you choose kindness as a part of your leadership style, you’ll get more done.
“Presidents come and go, supreme court justices stay for generations.”
60 minutes interview
Again, this is their leadership we’re discussing here and how it would work in any setting.
Bidens leadership style
- Biden listens before he gives the interviewer his well thought out answer. That is a show of respect.
- His answers cover the problem and the solution, as he sees it.
- When asked about how they would solve the Covid-19 challenges for not only the health and the economy of the country, he is reassuring with comprehensive answers.
When asked about if he would move more justices to the supreme court, he answers:
“If elected, what I’ll do is I put together a national commission of bipartisan constitutional scholars: democrats, republicans, liberals and conservatives. And I will ask them to over 180 days come back to me with recommendations as to how to reform the court system, because it is getting out of whack. The way it has been handled, and it’s not about courtpacking…presidents come and go, supreme court justices stay for generations.”
Humanity and benevolence of leaders
Kamala Harris answers a few questions as well. When asked if she was going to bring her progressive policies that she supported as a senator into a Biden administration, she answers that she has a deal with Joe Biden and her role as Vice President.
- She will share her lived experience, as it relates to any issue
- That she confronts him and gives him that perspective
- Always be honest with him
- That she will be the first one in and the last one out at any meeting
The interviewer asks if these are socialist or progressive perspectives, which has Harris laughing wholeheartedly. I wonder if that is because she might see the role of President and Vice President more of a service to the nation, not a calculated means to push through an agenda. This is what she answered:
“It is the perspective of a woman who grew up a black child in America, who is also a prosecutor, who has a mother who arrived here at the age of 19 from India, who also, you know, likes hip-hop, like, what do you want to know?”
By saying this, she shows that she too wants to bring back the humanity of leadership, and the benevolence of the roles who could impact 331 million people.
Focusing on we, not me
The interviewer doesn't want to leave the statement said of her and this time she adds a statement from Trump that Biden is going to be nothing but a trojan horse for socialist policies and the left-wing of the Democratic party. Are you going to push those policies when you are Vice President of the USA? Harris answers:
“I am not going to be defined to Donald Trump's definition of who I, or anybody else is. I think Americans have learned that to be a mistake. … I would not have joined the ticket if I did not support what Joe is proposing. And so, our plan includes expanding on everything that Joe, together with President Obama, created with the Affordable Care Act. By contrast, you have Donald Trump, who’s in court right now, trying to get rid of, a policy that brought healthcare to over 20 million people, including protecting people with pre-existing conditions, and he’s doing it in the middle of a pandemic that has killed over 215 000 Americans.”
She didn’t call Trump an idiot or schmuck for doing this, she didn’t say she was better than him, she didn’t say he was corrupt. Her answer merely showed what they thought was right a, how she highlighted the difference between the existing leadership and the coming leadership, should they be chosen by the people.
And Americans, remember to vote! Your voice matters.