You Just Found Out Your Girlfriend is Pregnant!
Follow These 8 Controlled Steps You Will Need To Get Through it!
Sex and lust tends to becomes a toxic mix! It makes you do things that you don’t normally do or even think about doing. There is a reason why they tell you to wrap it up!
I can honestly say this is true because it happened to me a few years back!
Its dangerous because it brings out the primal you. Not the you you usually are in society but the more darker you.
Knowing this you will make mistakes that can cause you some problems after the high wears off and reality begins.
You get a call and it’s the girl you have been messing with. The one you went to the club with and had a wild night! A night which ended with you the girl having raw sex with no protection.
Now she tells you that most dreaded word that any young man fears to hear!
I’m Pregnant!
You can tell she is mad at you by the way she is expressing herself! You have to make a decision quickly and intelligently here are the 8 controlled steps you can follow for when you get a girl pregnant!
1. Stay Calm!
At this time she is expecting a fight and is ready to blame you for the reason to why she is pregnant. The initial shock will make you want to argue and or blame her for making the mistake. At this point you stay calm and react slowly and not instantly as she is expecting you to. You will be sweating and angry but be calm!
2. Let Her Vent
Women tend to be more social than men and more in touch with their emotions she yell and scream and blame you for the whole thing. Do not take this personal as she is scared and her emotions are all over the place. Hear her out and see if you can figure out whether or not she wants the baby or not. You going to get the urge to defend yourself as she curses you out! Your job is to stand firm until she stops venting
3. State your view on the issue and be precise.
After she has stated her case you will need to speak calmly and precise. Whatever your decision is say it and never beat around the bush. She will try to take control of the conversation! When this happens you need to immediately tell her in a calm way that you are not finished explaining your reason why. At this point you will need to hold this conversation.
4. Weigh your options!
Be real about it. As you continue to state your case you both will need to weigh your options. Remind her that the fault lies in both people and not one. Explain to her that having a baby is a big responsibility to take care of. Make sure you clearly state your position and that you clearly understand hers!
5. Control your emotions.
While you are talking and keeping calm inside your emotions and fear are all over the place. The calm voice will calm her as it will show confidence. Slow and calm talking is soothing. Talking fast and all emotional will only feed more negativity to an already uncomfortable situation. The goal here is to be calm!
6. Its not just your fault but hers as well.
Realize that it’s not just your fault but hers as well. She will try to give you the blame so that she does not feel as bad as she already does. Just continue to remind her that the issue is both our faults.
7. Deciding to have it or not have it.
Now comes the part where you both decide what you and her are going to do. Allow her to decide by asking her “what do you want to do?” At that point she will tell you. Hopefully you have made your point enough for her to realize that you do not want the situation and if that is the case she will also not want it. Or she may want to keep the baby! If that is the case then that is for another story
8. Picking up the pieces or soaking up the happiness.
Whatever the decision be ready to realize that your life will never be the same. And that relationship is dead or on its way. Because its unnatural for a woman not want to be bringing a baby to the world. It is their right of passage when it comes to being a woman. Many women will deny this but you cannot control nature. Deep down inside she will resent you. That resent will turn to hate and unforgiveness. Every argument you get into with her she will bring it up.
At this time it’s best to break off the relationship and give each other time off to heal. There may be a chance that neither will get over this tragic event after the abortion is done.
Unless the both of you planned for the baby it will not end well no matter how you look at it. The best thing to do is that if you plan to have sex make sure you are aware of what you are doing. Do not expect her to do her part you do yours as well by wearing a condom.
