When Your Spouse Comes Out Transgender

Words from someone one year in

Antoinette Cavitt
Dec 5, 2019 · 10 min read
Image via Broadly’s Gender Spectrum Collection

Take a deep breath

You can’t control this, but you can control yourself

Communication is the only way you’ll get through this together

Mourn the future you thought you’d have but don’t become stuck in it

You can ask for time and set boundaries, but you can’t deny what your spouse needs

Your life is in transition too

You will have to explore your own identity and what sex means now

Love isn’t just a noun, it is a verb


There is so much more I could say



An Injustice!

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Antoinette Cavitt

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SciFi writer and mother with chronic illness. Obsessive researcher. Holder of a degree in English Education. Always advocating. Always helping. Usually smiling.

An Injustice!

A new intersectional publication. Geared towards voices, values, and identities.

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