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Cornelis Galle I, “Lucifer” (c. 1595).

It’s common for the passage of time to reshape how stories are perceived. Moral progress happens, and suddenly a story gets turned on its head. The good guys were actually bad guys; the bad guys were in fact victims. For example, it’s hard to watch a John Wayne movie today without cringing at both the treatment of the Indians and the antiquated “hero” depiction of Wayne’s character. Similarly, the Knights Templar — or any “heroes” dramatized in stories of the Crusades — are now often seen as bloodthirsty antagonists by modern audiences.

When a complete role reversal occurs over time, it almost always happens with the hero, not the villain. The “bad guys” often switch to be viewed as the victims (as in the case with the Indians in John Wayne movies, or the Muslims in Crusade stories), but not the heroes. If a character is a villain, they are, almost as a rule, given villainous qualities that are inherently unredeemable by any amount of time passing. If an author has any sense of drama whatsoever, they will craft their villains to be conniving, greedy, violent, remorseless, unloving, etc. …

Your reasons do not heal us — but taking responsibility is a start

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Image Source: Cdd20 on Pixabay

I placed my parents on a pedestal, big time. Their word was gospel, and I would never dream of defying them. This only resulted in me watching them plunge from the heights in which I had placed them, and brought on a crisis where I’m still trying to claw my way back to being OK with what it really means to be human – by eliminating the idea of perfection.

An over-protective upbringing

I was not like the teenagers in my favorite sitcoms. I didn’t identify with Will Smith in The Fresh Prince of Bel Air, who didn’t seem phased when people called him big ears, when girls turned him down, or when he got caught sneaking in from clubs at 3am. …

Lizzy Talbot explains what an intimacy coordinator does and how the role is revolutionizing the safety of simulated sex on screen.

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Credit: Shondaland Studios

I recently had the honor of interviewing Elizabeth “Lizzy” Talbot, an intimacy coordinator and intimacy director for both film and stage, respectively. Her latest project, Bridgerton, has taken the world by storm and is projected to become the 5th most-watched Netflix original series. Bridgerton’s highly talked about sex scenes have been on everyone’s mind, but the relatively new role of intimacy coordinator is still largely unknown outside of the industry.

Below is our conversation about her role, challenges, and triumphs.

Why did you make the career change from fight choreography to intimacy director?

What I noticed when working with fight work is that there are so many protocols, rules, and technicalities about what you can do with fights. It’s all quite formulaic. Whereas when you’re working with intimacy, it’s quite different because there weren’t really any rules. It was kind of like a free for all. And you were often resting on the good graces of your partner. That was your safety net. …

Maybe changing his dominant hand was their form of control

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Photo by Kelly Sikkema on Unsplash

When my brother grew up, he was a natural lefty. But you wouldn’t know that now. If you read his handwriting, you’ll see he writes very neatly with his right hand, much neater than I’ll ever write. He does most things with his right hand too — he can lift heavier dumbbells with his right than his left hand.

My brother is a righty now because my parents forced him to become one. He was born in China, and there was bad luck and significant social stigma associated with being a lefty. Above all, they didn’t want my brother having a harder time because he was a lefty. …

Tips and resources from the LGBTQ+ youth homelessness organization on our current political climate

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IMAGE: U.S. Capitol Building — True Colors United

I mean this is the most respectful way possible: I refuse to add to the barrage of blanketly expressed op-ed articles on the domestic terrorism that occurred at our nation’s Capitol on January 6th of this year. Yes, it is absolutely important that we discuss what happened as the many-layered issue that it is. It’s even therapeutically necessary. However, I will not sit here and publish an empty pathos simply stating how horrible that day was.

True Colors United is an organization that implements a wide range of solutions towards addressing the staggering number of homeless youth in our country who are LGBTQ+ identifying. The nonprofit recently released its statement titled, “True Colors United Against Fascism” which not only gives its perspective on the Pro-Trump riot that occurred but included resources and safety tips for the marginalized individuals affected by this tragedy. …

One awkward doctor’s visit and the latest attack by the Trump administration on LGBTQ+ health care

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Image created via Canva Pro.

Yesterday, I went to the doctor’s to get a full STI test done.

I’m not proud of it, but I could feel my face go red when I willed myself to ask my doctor about specific testing for anal STIs.

I’m totally comfortable talking to my friends about the sex I’m having, and I even write about it on the internet sometimes, so why did this feel so … off-limits?

As my brain ruminated over that very question on the walk home from the scene of the crime (AKA my doctor’s office), I wondered if other LGBTQ+ people ever felt this way.

When it comes to sexual health, are queer people getting the medical attention we deserve?

All I could think was that if my High School Sex Ed classes were indicative at all of how we treat LGBTQ+ sexual health, then we’re in serious trouble. …

Our arrogance is killing us

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Konstantin L

Yesterday a friend shared a post about how spoiled Americans are. “We live in the greatest country on earth,” he said. According to him, all we have to do is put our petty differences behind us and recognize how good everyone has it, especially compared to other countries.

Wow. Really?

That post came just before I received an email saying my vaccination appointment had been postponed indefinitely. Yep, despite being classified as an “essential worker,” vaccine shortages mean I have no idea when I’ll actually get one. I’m not even sad or disappointed.

I was expecting it.

Meanwhile, you know who’s not having problems with vaccine rollout? Israel. They’ve vaccinated 20 percent of their population. …

Being half-undressed, half-entangled with a friend isn’t the most convenient time to realize you’re demisexual

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Photo by Riz Mooney on Unsplash

Being half-undressed, half-entangled with a friend isn’t the most convenient time to realize you’re demisexual. The moment was an appropriate time, to be sure. But as I reclined against the couch, with jeans next on the list of things to come off, I didn’t expect to starkly realize why I wasn’t feeling all that turned on.

I was familiar with the numbness. That was part of why it had been so easy to ignore that persistent pinging at the back of my mind, the little beacon repeating “Do we really want this?” …

The Department of Health and Human Services rolled back nondiscrimination protections for LGBTQ+ people.

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Image: Chip Somodevilla/Getty Images

With just days left to go, the Trump administration has taken one last swing at nondiscrimination protections for LGBTQ+ Americans.

The Department of Health and Human Services finalized a rule on Tuesday, allowing agencies that receive federal grants to legally discriminate against LGBTQ+ people. The rule change will affect adoption and foster care, health care, HIV prevention, elder care programs, homelessness, and other social services.

The new guidance reverses an Obama-era policy prohibiting agencies from discriminating on the basis of sex, sexual orientation, gender identity, and religion, and requiring them to recognize same-sex marriages. …

A disturbing report finally reveals the true scale of abuse faced by the country’s most vulnerable women and children

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A view of the mass grave at the Bon Secours Mother and Baby Home, Tuam, County Galway. By AugusteBlanqui — Own work, CC BY-SA 4.0

Jesus said, “Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these.” — Matthew 19:14

In 2013, Irish historian Catherine Corless obtained the death certificates for 796 children who had died in the Bon Secours Mother and Baby Home between the years 1925 and 1961. She found only two corresponding burial records.

Her discovery and subsequent research put the tranquil market town of Tuam, County Galway at the centre of an investigation that took five years and spanned 18 institutions that were once designated as Mother and Baby Homes. …


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