How to Find and Connect with Your Ideal Partner: Part 1

Entering a relationship with someone you instantly vibe with, feeling like they’re meant for you, and falling head over heels in your first interaction is what everyone dreams of when searching for a partner. While this fairy-tale scenario can happen, it’s as rare as a blue moon. However, achieving this connection is possible if we shift our approach to the search. I will break it down into 2 parts. Here is the 1st part. Please implement them and see the magic unfold.

1. Believe in yourself that you will find your person and prepare yourself for the investment of time and money this may require. Remember — there is no free lunch + efforts are required to make what you desire possible.

2. List down all the qualities you wish for in a partner. Then, arrange them into 3 categories: Must-Have, Good-to-Have, and Okay-If-Not-There. Focus only on the Must-Haves. If your mind goes to good-to-have, get it back to ‘must-haves’.

3. Be brutally honest, identify areas where you need to improve, such as overthinking, making assumptions, judging too quickly, short temper, or neglecting your physical health etc. Once you have, working on them will help attract the right people.

4.Whether on other apps or here, take an active role in your search. Seek instead of waiting to be found.

5.When you get introduced, keep the initial texts or chats light and brief-20–30 minutes max irrespective of how interesting the other person is. Sign off saying you have something to take care off, even if you don’t. Avoid heavy topics; instead, talk about shared experiences, interests, or how the day has been. Remember, texting isn’t everyone’s forte, and the 1st few exchange can be stressful as both parties feel pressure to be perfect. Avoid making judgments about their interest based solely on initial texts.

Originally published at https://blogs.andwemet.com on July 26, 2024.