Who Will Thank The Women?
Unmasking Gender Hypocrisies and the Unsung Heroines
In a world where men receive accolades even for the smallest of deeds, it’s like a relentless assault on the stoic hearts of men. The excessive ego-pampering bestowed on the supposedly weaker sex is enough to put Bill Gates to shame if only I could tally it up. But let me not stray off course.
My tale is far from unique. Men are lauded as stronger, wiser, and better until the conversation turns to matters below the belt, and suddenly, we’re expected to cut them some slack. Well, I’m not in the business of cutting slack.
I once visited a long-time friend I’d only met once but we talked daily for nearly a year. I made it explicitly clear that it was to be a platonic visit, devoid of any romantic advances. Perhaps that was naive, but can we really not trust a supposedly “mature” man to act his age? Thankfully, there was no assault, just an arduous and exhausting dance of defusing advances.
There’s no trophy to award his “self-control,” but I must acknowledge him for not crossing the line. He claimed to have done something only 10% of men could do, a feat I was also accomplishing without recognition. Why? Because, as you might have guessed, I am a woman, and self-control and chastity seem to be inborn.
He even took it further and made the rather peculiar statement that’s echoed by men throughout history: that a man has two brains, one in his head and one in his loins, which can not operate simultaneously. What a convenient analogy, separating parts of the same body for personal convenience.
This notion isn’t new. Over 500 years ago, Leonardo da Vinci observed the elusive nature of penile rigidity, noting that it acted independently of the owner’s will. “The penis does not obey the order of its master,” he wrote, suggesting it had a mind of its own. However, modern science tells a different story.
While dissecting cadavers, Da Vinci discovered that the penis fills with blood during an erection but his perception of its autonomy was incorrect. It’s now understood that the central nervous system, the brain and spinal cord collectively control the organ. So, dear brother, you do have control; you simply choose not to exercise it.
Although research on women’s sexual function has lagged behind that of men, scientists are gradually uncovering both similarities and differences between the sexes. There’s an old myth that sexual frustration causes stomachaches in men. Really? Isn’t it time to retire that excuse? Perhaps one day, science will also convince the world that women are sexual beings with their own desires. I may not live to see it but I’ll stand up when women start debunking the “stomachache” myth with the same vigor. Maybe by then, science will have invented a GPS for the clitoris. I won’t ask for too much, though. Forgive my ramblings, but this topic tickles my funny bone.
Don’t get me wrong. Men should be celebrated for acts of kindness and selflessness, just like anyone else. It’s undeniably a man’s world, and it wouldn’t be the same without them. However, should we really roll out the red carpet for a man who refrains from promiscuity? Applaud him for looking after his own child while his partner tackles other chores? Praise him for doing the dishes, as if it’s beneath him? Commend him for cleaning a house he also resides in? Or for cooking, a task that women have shouldered for decades without expecting a single word of acknowledgment, let alone appreciation?
Yes, I thank this man for not violating my boundaries, but should I? Who will thank me for hours of self-control, for resisting temptation when desire runs deep? Or do we all assume that women lack a libido?
Who will thank your mother for changing your diapers while your father watched television as if your soiled bottom was from another dimension? Who will thank her for spending hours preparing meals she might not even have the energy to eat? Who will thank her for those countless, unacknowledged acts that keep the world turning? Who will thank the women?
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