Techniques for Dealing With Children’s Aggression

Helpful tips for dealing with aggressive children

Parviz Haqshanas
Apex Perspectives
3 min readMay 17, 2024

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Aggressive children generally like to break things, fuss unnecessarily, or hurt themselves or others. The worst solution for them is mutual anger or punishment, but what are the best solutions for these children?

Children’s aggression is usually seen in forms such as yelling, beating themselves or others, throwing objects, or crying, which of course also causes nervous pressure for themselves and their caregivers. Children may engage in violent behavior or yelling for various reasons, including getting the love and attention of their parents or because they have had a bitter experience. In this case, the role of parents in intensifying these behaviors or reducing them is very important to end the story. If parents start yelling or punishing children and any other stressful behavior, these behaviors will be fixed in their child and will appear worse in the future.

Practical ways to calm an aggressive child

1. Parents should know that children still do not know how to control anger, and adults must calm them down with the right methods and soothing expressions. So, the first thing is that the parents keep their calm and be able to behave properly with the child. If the children are angry, bad-tempered, and aggressive for no reason, the parents can calm them down with a calming task, for example, some When children wake up early in the morning, they are fussy without reason. In this way, children can be sent to the bathroom with their toys to play and have a hot shower to reduce their bad temper. Sometimes you can also give them flowers and vases in the garden or terrace of the house to warm their heads with.

2. If the child is angry because of a game with another person or with himself and it makes him feel bad, for example, if you see him grinding his teeth or punching his hands and banging somewhere, you can give him play dough and ask him to push it and give it exercise. This method reduces children’s anger and anxiety.

3. For a child who starts beating his parents or banging his head somewhere because of his anger, you can make a pillow and name it a “forgiving pillow” and teach the child that whenever he is angry, he should put his anger on his head. Empty his pillow and hit him. Because this pillow is forgiving, it takes away the child’s anger and gives him happiness instead. This method is suitable for children who are old enough to understand these feelings.

4. For a child who throws things due to his anger, parents can provide him with a series of waste papers and ask him to crumple them and throw them in the bin. This method also distracts the child from the cause of his discomfort and peace. to be

5. A bored child who makes excuses and is fussy can be soothed by massaging, stroking, or reading a favorite book.

Therefore, all these practical solutions make the child’s anger decrease, and punishing is never a good way to eliminate children’s anger, as it gives the opposite result.

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Parviz Haqshanas
Apex Perspectives

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