Breaking up is hard to do

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4 min readOct 1, 2018

How happy are you in your current relationship? Are you looking forward to coming home every night or do you dread it? Is your life fun and full or laughter or are you lying to cover up the addiction of a partner? Are you distraught and worried? Not sleeping at night?

Relationships are work and bad relationships wreck havoc on your emotions, tearing you from the inside out. If there is addiction involved lying becomes second nature to cover up the pain of the life that you are living in. Smiles are pasted on your face so that the world won’t see the real you. You are living in an imaginary world, one that you pretend that everything is great and wonderful until one day you just can’t do it anymore. It is the drop that makes the bucket overflow, the thing that throws you over the edge, but it is also the thing that will give you freedom and peace.

If you are in one of these situations, I am sure the only thing that you think of is getting out and how to do it without causing more pain not only to yourself but to those around you. After all what will people think? What about your family and friends, and your children? From experience you need to do what is best for you because if you are staying for any of the above reasons everyone knows and can feel the tension no matter how hard you try and no matter how big your smile. One of the hardest things to do is to put yourself first, especially if you are a parent. Happiness is a choice. However breaking up is hard to do.

Experience is a teacher, so they say, and it is what we keep and learn from these experiences that help us with the life that we choose to live. It is also said that we do not remember days we remember moments and those moments are the very things that shape and mold us. They can even wreck us if we let them or strengthen our every decision. Choose to live in the today and use those experiences to make better decisions, don’t they also say insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results? Learn from it, grow from it and make better decisions because of it.

Making the choice to leave is hard however walking out is even harder especially if you have been in a relationship where you have been controlled. How do you know if you are controlled? Once you actually leave you will understand. If you have not been privy to finances, budgets, and you have no money in your wallet that you can spend without being asked a million questions then you are controlled and it is a form of abuse. It is unhealthy.

It is natural to mourn the loss, after all it is the death of a relationship, marriage and family. You will have good days and bad days, but eventually you get past the pain. You realize that you are sleeping better and the weight that you once felt is lifted. Rather than sit and sulk take care of yourself. Find something that you like to do and do it. So if you have a bucket list start living it. Climb that mountain, visit that country, jump out of that airplane, live!!

One of the most important thing that you can do is to take care of yourself. Find an exercise that you love to do and do it. If you are not a gym person there are great options that you have and a personal one on one coach is a great choice. They will help you to reach your goals and encourage you all the way, right in the comfort of your own home. The one that I would recommend is Fry Egg. Fry Egg offers a wide variety of coaches that you get to choose, you aren’t stuck with someone that you don’t like.

Fry Egg offers fitness and nutrition. Just look through the coaches and find the one that would best meet your needs. Working with them is amazing and it is all done from the comfort of your own home. Life does throw you curve balls. It often doesn’t work out the way that you planned with whom you planned it with. But it is your life and you get to choose how you want to live it. Breaking up is hard to do but restarting and reliving is giving yourself another chance to be you.

Stop to smell the flowers, look at the scenery and laugh. You only get one life to live so have fun and live it. Love will find a way. Surround yourself with people to encourage you and lift you up and don’t let you wallow win self pity. Look for ways every day to make someone else’s day, it will bring you more joy that you could ever imagine. Remember life is a gift my friend, do not leave it unopened.

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Breaking up is hard to do

Written by Stephany Molenko Baughman