Questions most people are afraid to ask around sex
But really need to for safety, sanity, and pleasure:
- How do you define consent?
- What acts count as sex or romance to you?
- Have you ever raped anyone? (This is incredibly difficult to ask because the assumption is accusation instead of discussion. The point is to get people thinking about how they define and ask for consent, and to open the door to discussing or disclosing past sexual abuse if applicable. A person that can’t even think about this question isn’t…