Sexual Responsibility Exercise

Ideas for questions on rape, manipulation, rudeness (negative attitudes) for rapists, or, the information we need from them so that we can formulate better education and intervention solutions; this speaks heavily to the kinds of conversations we need to be comfortable having with each other since this issue is so widespread.

Ask questions about their beliefs towards same and other genders



Ask if they noticed signs of distress without identifying them as such



Ask about attitudes toward sex



Ask about need to prove masculinity or toughness



Ask about consent questions and consent body language (gestures)



Ask about using substances to make sex more possible



Ask if they enjoyed signs of distress without identifying them as such



Ask if they discussed rough play, anal, or kink beforehand



If they asked about person’s well-being



If they kept in contact with the person



When they first knew they wanted to have sex and how long they waited



Gauge how interested they were in the sex vs getting to know the person or asking for consent ("I knew they belonged to me" or other ownership-based attitudes)



Examine views of sex as a punishment or a right



Examine for solipsistic values



Check for peer pressure or herd mentality



How they felt afterward



Can and do they ever talk about it



Ask how they define consent



Ask about herding behavior (physically guarding someone with body language to lay claim, such as cornering someone in a room)



Did they discuss pregnancy



Do they expect a passive partner



Did they disclose std status



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