As She Writes

How to Be Intentional With Your Life

This is how I learned to stop standing in my own way and enjoy my life again.

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We all have those wildly productive days that leave us feeling unstoppable, and in those moments, we genuinely feel like we can stay like that forever.

It isn’t until we hit a roadblock that we feel like we’re not good enough, that the effort isn’t worth it, or that there isn’t a reason to start. I learned pretty early on in my writing career that those feelings never really go away, but you will figure out how to deal with them.

You can come up with every excuse in the book not to sit down and write, build your portfolio, or start chasing your dreams, but do you really want to wake up one day wondering what if?

It’s the days where everything feels like a hurdle that you just want to curl up into a ball and hide from all of your responsibilities, but you can’t.

You and I both know that the longer you put things off, the harder they’ll become. So, how do you eliminate procrastination when it’s consuming you? You learn to be intentional.

Small goals lead to big rewards

I used to be someone that would write out ridiculously long to-do lists and convince myself that it will all just get done. I hated the idea of starting to fix my unproductive patterns in the middle of the week, telling myself that it was too late to begin again.

I stood in the way of my own goals because I was striving to do too much instead of spending more of my time trying to accomplish the smaller goals. I stopped aiming to write three articles a day and started with one again. I relearned the process of gaining momentum until I felt like I was finally back on track.

If you’re sitting there telling yourself that you want to “get back to how productive you used to be,” it’s time you reassess how you’re tackling things. Instead of criticizing yourself, take the time to look for solutions, give yourself incentives, and concentrate on completing those smaller goals.

Focus on what you can control

When I feel like a mess, and my mind is too clouded to think, it feels impossible to get any writing done. If you find that you’re constantly overwhelmed, it’s time you start digging deeper to find out exactly what’s overwhelming you.

Sometimes, all you need is to take a step back, assess the situation, and find simple fixes that will make your life much easier. When I wake up feeling like I haven’t been consistent with my writing, I don’t even give myself time to think about putting it off. I just begin.

I get straight to work, writing whatever comes to mind because it makes me feel like I’m in control. When I finish a successful writing session, I can get to work on the rest of the upcoming deadlines and urgent tasks that need my attention because I have that sense of accomplishment guiding me through the rest of my day.

Lose the fear by learning to slow down

The fear of starting is something that every writer faces. You may find it much more prevalent when you haven’t been getting much done lately, but that doesn’t mean that you need to speed up and stress yourself out to make up for lost time.

Learning to slow down has taught me to enjoy the little moments throughout the day where I get to take a well-deserved break away from work to do the things that make me happy.

I enjoy slow mornings, reading with a cup of tea, or even just taking the time to clean my space so when I can get back to writing with a clutter-free mind.

Be intentional with how you choose to spend your time. Acknowledge the time you take to relax and rejuvenate, and learn to introduce balance into your life, so you’re not constantly scrambling to get things done at the very last minute.

You deserve to go through life without feeling like you’re repeatedly hitting a wall, and that means taking the time to put yourself first. Do something today that will make you grateful tomorrow, and don’t lose sight of your goals.

I know you may be afraid to start, or you may feel like it’s not worth it to try now that you’ve let the procrastination spiral out of control, but I’m here to tell you that there’s always time to change.

Don’t wait around for a tough wake-up call to jolt you back to reality. Give yourself the chance you deserve and take it one step at a time.

One step is all it takes to get you moving. So, what are you waiting for?

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