How to Build Real Consistency Without Losing Your Mind
Don’t let stress be your Achilles’ heel and keep you from building real, consistent habits.
Maintaining consistency is something we all want to do, but most of us struggle to accomplish it. Whether you want to start working out again, write regularly, or simply establish a routine that will keep you from starting every day feeling overwhelmed, it all boils down to consistency.
Sure we may get a surge of inspiration or energy that leads us to have that one perfect day where everything seems to go according to plan. What you have to realize about that day is that you’re already motivated and ready to go, making it much easier to get through the work and feel accomplished.
Though, what happens on the countless other days where everything feels like a chore? That’s where the battle to implement consistent habits comes in.
Everyone will tell you that if you want something bad enough, you have to put the work in to get it, but it takes much more than that to actually want to get out of bed every day.
Here’s how I finally did it.
Learning to trust your skills and capabilities
I suffer from a great deal of imposter syndrome, fear, and anxiety, even though I’ve been writing for as long as I can remember. That fear has held me back much more over the last few months than it ever had before, and once I decided to change that, I knew I’d have to start seeing myself as a writer much differently.
I stopped comparing how I feel now to how I used to feel before. I began believing in myself again instead of checking out before I’ve even given it a genuine attempt.
I know that it won’t be an easy journey getting back to a place where I feel confident enough not to let myself slip out of my consistent writing habits, but I’m aware that I can bounce back no matter how many times I fail.
Learning to trust your skills and capabilities melds with doing work that you love, even if you have to do the work you don’t want to do. Setting aside time to write for me has been the way that helped me get back on my feet because, in those moments, the only opinions that matter are my own.
Intentionally stepping away from what stresses you out
This isn’t easy for anyone, and it has been my most significant setback recently. When something is stressing me out, I have the urge to unpack all of it and deal with it now, even if I received a message from a client at three o’clock in the morning and definitely should go back to sleep.
When you intentionally step away from what stresses you out, you will come back to it with a fresher perspective, ready to tackle everything one step at a time. The constant need to work until you break and then criticize yourself for not doing so needs to end for you to start creating real consistency.
There’s nothing that will stand in the way of your healthy habits like a large dose of unrelenting stress. So, step away from it for a few moments, and recenter yourself. That way, you won’t let the stress keep you from doing the things that help you grow and improve over time.
Recharging your creativity with what makes you feel good
When you’re taking the time to step away from the stress, what are you doing that makes you feel good? I used to get wrapped up in trying to fill my days with activities that brought no joy to my life, convincing myself that if I continued to do them that I’d build those habits that will change me as a person.
It turns out that they only kept me from establishing consistency, and the way I fixed this was with the habits that genuinely made me feel good. I take the time out of my day to indulge in reading, to work out because it makes me feel good, and I look at each of these activities as a chance to do something for me.
When writing became my job, I didn’t know how to do it for myself. That’s because most of the time I spent writing to pay my bills. I didn’t know how to enjoy storytelling when it wasn’t to grow my career. I managed to find my passion for personal writing again through reading new, inspiring books, and I haven’t looked back.
Recharging my creativity helps me stay consistent every day. It allows me to trust that the writing I’m doing is beneficial to me, no matter the outcome. I learned to focus on all of the things that make every day feel incredible so that when stressful situations surface, I know how to handle them.
You will fall out of routine more times than you can count, and there’s nothing wrong with that. The only thing that will genuinely make a difference in how long that lasts is what you do about it. Revisit the things you love, be intentional about what you do for yourself, and create what makes you happy.
Believe in yourself a little more every day, and your life will start to change. Do what makes you feel good, and find real balance in your work. That’s how you make an effort to better your everyday.
Trust me. You won’t regret it.
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