They Don’t Want to See You Succeed
This is how you deal with the people who will never have your best interest at heart.
It’s questionable whether some of them even have hearts. A single piece of advice that I will always remember is never to surround yourself with yes-men. You want to share the company with people who support you and understand that they may not agree with every decision you make. You want to listen to different sides of every argument or decision before you infer which side best represents your views. Do not let those who want to drag you down and watch you suffer be the people that dictate how you set out to build a successful, sustainable career.
There is a clear difference between constructive criticism and simply trying to swindle someone out of every ounce of drive they have. Repeated attempts to work around your success, to get under your skin, and you wonder whether you should be listening to any of it after all. The only thing that will help in this situation is to listen and let it go. If it isn’t going to help you further progress and grow both in your career and as a person, let it go.
I’ve noticed the shift in conversation upon talking about aspirations, goals, and general dreams I may have. I realized just how quick they would be to belittle my accomplishments because they weren’t happening on a larger scale. I had been entirely comfortable with my growth, excited to see where I would go next, and it wasn’t until that moment did I start to question myself.
Your Accomplishments Matter
Whether it’s the first piece you’ve shared with the world, the first piece you’ve pitched, or the glowing feedback you received — you’re allowed to be excited. Do not give anyone the power to take that away from you. If there’s one thing I’ve learned as I set out to make writing my full-time job, it’s that there will always be people who don’t agree with your career moves, your aspirations, or your goals, but that doesn’t mean that you should stop pursuing them.
The Fear That Wasn’t There Before
Some people find joy in bringing you down, dismantling everything you’ve worked so hard for because they can’t bear to see you succeed. When they’re busy telling you that you’re wasting your time, that writing isn’t a real job, don’t let that instill fear in you that wasn’t present before. You know how hard you’ve been working, the aspirations and goals you’ve been working towards, and that is what matters in the end. I’ve had people share their thoughts, tell me that I would never make it as a writer, and it wasn’t until the fear began to get to me did I realize how much I had lost. I lost my will to continue, the joy I received from creating, and I did everything I could to get that back.
I knew that my journey as a writer was a personal one, and they had no business telling me that I couldn’t try. You’ll never honestly know how far you’ll go unless you set aside that fear and get back to doing what you love.
I Have a Lot to Learn
I have a lot to learn about the industry I’ve entered, about the people I’ll undoubtedly meet at some point, about the highs and the lows I will experience, but I’ll never forget why I started writing in the first place. I’ve made it my mission to do the best I can with every new piece I sit down to write, to pitch, or to publish because it makes me happy. I like putting the work in, and I love striving to do better as I learn more along the way. The people who are trying to bring you down aren’t capable of doing what you do. In my experience, a lot of them are looking for the easy way to success — which doesn’t exist.
Your hard work, your integrity, and your drive are going to set you up for success. There will always be people who don’t want to see you succeed, but they have no right to tell you what you can and cannot strive for. This is your journey, and you can do with it whatever you wish.
It’s okay to dream big. It’s okay to work for something that feels unachievable because you’ve deduced a plan of action. Keep learning, keep working, and you will see progress. Don’t let everything you’ve worked for go to waste.
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