50 Things To Do Before You Turn 50

But only if you want to be happy

Iva Ursano
Aug 19, 2020 · 7 min read
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My story in a nutshell

I need to give you a Reader’s Digest version of what my life has been like for the last 50 something years so you know I write with some real hardcore life experiences:

  • physically and sexually abused by spouses and partners
  • homeless for a short while (that was hell)
  • declared bankruptcy twice (the last time 9 years ago)
  • single mother
  • my son’s father committed suicide in 2019
  • my family ostracized me at my mother’s funeral
  • hit rock bottom at 52 (when I left my last abusive relationship)
  • clawed my way out and totally reinvented my life.

“Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, either way, you’re right” ~ Henry Ford

I traded in my 25+ year career, became a freelance writer, then a Social Media Manager, and now I run my own two websites (and all the social media content and accounts that go with those) and am living a life of total freedom in Mexico.

50 Things To Do Before You Turn 50

In no particular order of importance, here we go…

  1. Dump toxic people in your life. Yes, even if they are family. Toxic people will weigh you down until you get rid of them.
  2. Write a love letter to yourself. Do this at least once, but aim for once a month. It’s the biggest self-esteem boost you’ll ever find.
  3. Write a forgiveness letter. Anyone and everyone who has ever hurt you, write them a letter of forgiveness. Don’t send it to them. This letter is for you to help you cleanse your heart, mind, and soul. Trust me, it works.
  4. Travel by yourself at least once. Go somewhere you’ve never been, where you don't know anyone and take in the culture.
  5. Give your children the freedom to be who they want to be. If you have kids, let them answer their heart’s true calling. Don’t force them to be like you. They aren’t you.
  6. Start practicing kindness. Say random kind things to random strangers. Put a smile on people’s faces. The world needs more kind people.
  7. Stop caring about what other people think of you. Most people don’t even think highly of themselves. Live your life for you, not others.
  8. Form solid boundary lines. Don’t let people walk all over you and take advantage of you. Respect yourself first and others will follow suit.
  9. Stop being a people pleaser. You are the only person you should be pleasing first. If you aren’t happy, you won’t make anyone else happy either.
  10. Don’t look for happiness in others. You will never find it. Happiness is within you already. Find that.
  11. Volunteer at a homeless shelter. I wish everyone would do this. This will blow your mind and remind you to be thankful for all you have. Not only that, but your heart will also grow in ways you never thought possible.
  12. Talk to more strangers. Sometimes an innocent conversation can lead to the greatest friendships. Get out of your comfort zone and meet new people.
  13. Practice self-care daily. Every single day for at least 15 minutes, do something nice and nurturing just for you. ❤
  14. Never settle for less than what you deserve. Not your job, your pay, your relationships, nudda. You are worthy of greatness. Don’t settle for less.
  15. Use your voice more. Speak your truth. Don’t nod and agree with someone just to fit in or be likable. Stand up for what you believe in.
  16. Stop trying to fit in/blend in. It never works and you will be unhappy. Be yourself and others will like you just the way you are. Or they won’t. The right people will gravitate.
  17. Learn new skills. Many of them if you want. A new language, how to code, piano playing, anything! Learn something new each year.
  18. Rewire your brain. If you are a negative thinker, switch your thoughts to positive ones, and watch how your life changes.
  19. Say YES more. When people invite you to new places and events, say yes and go. You never know who you will meet or how you will grow.
  20. Say NO more. Stop always being there for everyone. Say no to them and yes to you. Let someone else help for a change.
  21. Do something really ballsy at least once. Skydiving, bungee jumping, moving to a new city or country, anything that just might light your soul on fire.
  22. Stop thinking you can’t. Did you even try? Start saying I can and I’ll figure out how to do it as I go along.
  23. Treat yourself more often. Buy those damn shoes or that expensive perfume. You only live once. Take yourself out to dinner at a fancy restaurant (this one is friggin awesome!)
  24. Stop saying “I’m too busy” all the time. If you are, you need to take a deeper look into your life so you can be less busy and have more time for fun.
  25. Don’t hold grudges. They are toxic and will suck the life out of you. Life’s too short to be angry at “John” from 20 years ago. Let it go, Felicia.
  26. Never let anyone treat you like crap. Stick up for yourself and demand respect. Put an end to that nonsense and walk away.
  27. Eat the cake already. It’s ok to indulge in life’s little pleasures sometimes. Go ahead and try it :)
  28. Ask for help. If you are going through a really hard time, no matter how strong you are, it’s ok to ask for help. People love to help.
  29. Sign your organ donor card. If you can. You can save many lives by doing that one small little thing.
  30. Open your heart more to love. Yes sometimes love hurts but sometimes it’s the most beautiful thing in the world. Take the chance.
  31. Journal more. Write out your feelings or maybe practice daily gratitude. But you should really write more. Write happy things.
  32. Send an apology. You know who you need to apologize to. Stop wasting time and say I’m sorry.
  33. Visit a lonely senior in a nursing home. Did you know there are many residents in nursing homes who have no family to visit them or no visitors? Grab a coffee/tea and some treats and go!
  34. Try a new food. Frog legs anyone? Chocolate-coated crickets maybe? Be daring!
  35. Give up a bad habit. Smoking, drinking, nail-biting, whatever it is. Aim to ditch one bad habit.
  36. Donate your clothes to a women’s or homeless shelter. You could sell them at a yard sale and make a few bucks or you could donate them and help someone else get a head start on a new life.
  37. Go to a karaoke bar and sing your heart out. You know you wanna. You’re just too scared. Go do it!! And don’t even care what people think. Sing your heart out babe!
  38. Stand up for what you believe in. Even if you have to stand alone. You are someone’s voice. Use it loudly and proudly.
  39. Learn CPR. You never know when you might need it and help save someone’s life. Maybe even a child’s.
  40. Stop gossiping. It’s ugly and makes you ugly. We all have stories and hidden skeletons. So do you.
  41. Stop judging people. See #41. It’s just as ugly. Wait, see #12. That’ll cure you of judging people.
  42. Give spare change to a homeless person. It’s not your business what they use it for. You don’t know their story. Give them $1 for goodness sake.
  43. Smile at strangers as often as you can. That one smile you share could be the only smile they see all day. And they will smile back. And you have just made someone's day brighter.
  44. Play with puppies and kittens more. Go to an animal shelter and hang out with 4 legged furry things. That’ll make your heart sing.
  45. Change jobs. If you’re not happy with the job you have now, you’re not stuck there. Learn a new skill or create your own job (kinda like I did!)
  46. Learn a new language. Hard as hell but fun too. You never know if you’ll end up in another country where knowing the language will surely come in handy!
  47. Take better care of your health. Start exercising or eating healthier. Years of neglect will take their toll sooner than you think.
  48. Go skinny dipping. At least once. It really is fun and kind of liberating.
  49. Learn to be more understanding and open-minded. You’re not always right and it’s important to try to understand someone else’s point of view.

In summary

Life is too short for hate, grudges, fear, and other negative limiting beliefs. This life is the only one you have. Don’t live with regrets. Embrace each day of life and live it to the absolute fullest.

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Iva Ursano

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Self help Guru|Expat|Website: https://amazingmemovement.com/ mini self help eBook series here: https://books.amazingmemovement.com/

Assemblage

A collection of things or people. An object made of pieces fitted together. A work of art made by grouping found or unrelated objects. A publication on Medium.

Iva Ursano

Written by

Self help Guru|Expat|Website: https://amazingmemovement.com/ mini self help eBook series here: https://books.amazingmemovement.com/

Assemblage

A collection of things or people. An object made of pieces fitted together. A work of art made by grouping found or unrelated objects. A publication on Medium.

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