Don’t Make Yourself Small

A reflection on how and why we do this

Estrella Ramirez
Feb 26 · 4 min read

Why do we do this?

Not as in why, with three w’s and an exasperated question mark and several exclamation points — why as in literal reasons.

Apologizing when there is nothing to apologize for

Guilty as charged. You know the person who adds ‘sorry’ to the end of each sentence leaving their mouth. The person you tell to stop saying sorry and who instantly apologizes for over-apologizing?

Not asking for what you want

What would you do if you ordered a steak well-done and it came out looking like it was fresh from the farm? Maybe instead of sending it back, you would push it around your plate and decorate it with those sautéed mushrooms you were never going to eat.

Assemblage

A work of art made by grouping found or unrelated objects.

Estrella Ramirez

Written by

Coffee fanatic, with a dramatic inner dialogue — a poet and Historical fiction enthusiast, longing for a time that’s gone — an old soul — Writer of fiction

Assemblage

A collection of things or people. An object made of pieces fitted together. A work of art made by grouping found or unrelated objects. A publication on Medium.

Estrella Ramirez

Written by

Coffee fanatic, with a dramatic inner dialogue — a poet and Historical fiction enthusiast, longing for a time that’s gone — an old soul — Writer of fiction

Assemblage

A collection of things or people. An object made of pieces fitted together. A work of art made by grouping found or unrelated objects. A publication on Medium.

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