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It Doesn’t Matter How Attractive Others Think We Are

Their attention doesn’t determine our value.

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I’ve started to see a common trend in relationship articles and advice columns. There seems to be an overwhelming amount of information out there about how to make ourselves more attractive to people.




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Vanessa Torre

Vanessa Torre

Writer, editor, plant junkie, music fan, and host of 🎙 I Hadn’t Considered That, a podcast about perspectives.

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