The Unexpected Lesson at the End of My Grief Therapy

Surprisingly, it wasn’t about death or moving on after loss.

Vanessa Torre
Nov 10, 2020 · 5 min read
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“Grief is the conflicting feelings caused by the end of or change in a familiar pattern of behavior.” — John James and Russell Friedman, The Grief Recovery Handbook.

Well. Damn. That’s a whole thing. When I heard this, I wrote it down and stared at it for a long time. Every moment when I felt like a mess after something, anything, came to an end made sense. I felt normal.

Understanding our capacity to heal and knowing we have the ability to move through pain changes how we approach life.

I feel more open to challenges and opportunities now. After deciding that absolving to not date is nothing more than another mechanism I can use to run from my issues, I met two men within 24 hours last month. I had several dates with both men. The entire experience of dating feels completely different.

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Vanessa Torre

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Flaming pinball, nerd, music lover, wine snob, horrible violin player. No, I won’t stop taking pictures of my drinks. vanessaltorre@gmail.com IG: vanessaltorre

Assemblage

A collection of things or people. An object made of pieces fitted together. A work of art made by grouping found or unrelated objects. A publication on Medium.

Vanessa Torre

Written by

Flaming pinball, nerd, music lover, wine snob, horrible violin player. No, I won’t stop taking pictures of my drinks. vanessaltorre@gmail.com IG: vanessaltorre

Assemblage

A collection of things or people. An object made of pieces fitted together. A work of art made by grouping found or unrelated objects. A publication on Medium.

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