They’re Not Preferred Pronouns, They’re Mandatory: A Resource Round-Up for Aspiring Allies to Transgender, Gender-Variant, Intersex, & Nonbinary Folks

Kat Kline
Jun 21, 2017 · 3 min read

I just compiled this list, I did not write any of the resources linked below, nor do I own them. I did, however, read all of them. If you still have questions after reading all of the linked pages and files, as well as my own Op-Eds and literally everything by Allison Washington, feel free to reach out to me, and I will do my best to answer your query.

Intent vs. Impact (see also)

General Ally Guides: One Two Three

Specific Guidance on Allyship to LGBTQIA+ People

Allyship =/= Identity

Guidance For Cis/Het Folks in LGBTQIA+ Spaces

Misconceptions & Pitfalls To Avoid As An Ally

How To Support A Friend/Partner/Loved One Experiencing Dysphoria

Additional Readings On Allyship To Non-Cis/Nonbinary Folks

Frequently Asked Questions

The Right To Genital Integrity

Trans Etiquette 101: No Offense, But That’s Offensive

Trans Rights Toolkit

Trans 101, Continued

Re: The Asterisk

Re: “Detransitioning”

Re: “You Don’t Look Nonbinary/Androgynous.”

Busting Myths: One Two Three Four Five Six Seven Eight Nine Ten Eleven

Agender 101

Cissexism 101

Transmisogyny 101

Cisgender/Binary Privilege 101

Binarism 101

Glossaries of Additional Gender Identities

Links Re: Transphobic Violence

For Parents Who Just Learned Their Kid Is Transgender/GNC

(Note: currently searching anything about loving intersex people as a cisgender and/or binary person; will update this as soon as I can!)

For Men Dating Trans Women

General Tips For Supporting Your Trans Partner & Standing In Solidarity

Supporting A Nonbinary Partner

How To Get Republicans To Support Trans Rights

Regarding Sexual Activities & Respect (additional links here and here)


White Privilege & Transness

TWoC Survival Guide

The Exoticizing of TWoC

Society’s Treatment of Pregnant Transmen

Multiple Marginalizations & Kink

Re: Eating Disorders In Non-Cis/Nonbinary Communities

Re: HRT & Medical Cissexism

Trans Healthcare Ordeals

Racism vs. Transphobia in Feminism

Transphobia on the Left

Transphobia In Feminism

Mapping Gender-Diverse Cultures & Histories

Demystifying The Language of Gender

India’s Third Gender

Trans Activism

Trans Military Service

Gay Rights & the Scapegoating of Trans/GNC/Intersex Rights

Inclusive Faith Communities

More will be added as I find them.

NOTE: Please take the above video with a grain of salt and some critical thinking. Being repulsed by specific genitals is not unilaterally transphobic. Saying that you’re a straight man, but wouldn’t date a transwoman, for example, would be transphobic. However, if you say that you’re a straight man, and don’t feel comfortable dating people with the same genitalia as you? That’s not necessarily transphobic. This video is a great ice-breaker on the topic, but is not necessarily as nuanced as I would like, as a rape survivor who can understand why someone may be repulsed by certain anatomy due to trauma; please understand that this is a short piece on a complex topic.

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Kat Kline

Chicagoan. Spoonie runner. Aspiring Social Worker. Pan as Peter and twice as magical. Nonbinary Trans INTJ. They/them.

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