What is Perfect Anyways?
What does perfect mean to you? If you search for the definition of perfect on google, it says: “having all the required or desirable elements, qualities, or characteristics; as good as it is possible to be.”
I believe we all have the required elements, if we are alive and have the opportunity to be present in this beautiful world that our Creator has given us.
We were created in very different ways for different purposes. Why should we try to be like the “perfect” model, with the “perfect” body, with the “perfect” skin, with the “perfect” lips, with the “perfect” cheekbones, with the “perfect” size bra, and so many other categories that I don’t know who standardized as fucking “PERFECT”!!
We already have everything we need.
As the definition says, if you have the desired elements, which is what the Creator gave you, and if you have all the qualities, which is what you build during your lifetime, you have it all. You are perfect the way you are.
We Get Lost Looking For Perfection
When we look for perfection, we get lost and all our focus goes to ourselves, which could be a dangerous thing, because when you look too much, you start finding all the “flaws” that you have. I think the majority of us have been there.
We live in constant stress comparing ourselves to others. We are unique!
Also, we tend to fall into depression very easily. Why? Because our focus is on ourselves and our nature is to help others, care about others, be nice to our neighbors, and we are reducing all this because we are concentrating on our ego, which can easily lead us to depression.
You may think the more you have, the happier you’ll be. Well, that’s not completely true. There was a study of 14 countries by researchers from the World Health Organization (WHO) and Harvard Medical School. The U.S. tops the list with 9.6% of the population experiencing bipolar disorder, major depressive disorder or chronic minor depression over the course of a year. That’s compared with a 0.8% rate documented in Nigeria.
I come from an underdeveloped country, and that study makes so much sense to me. One of the reasons for the low rate is that there’s not enough resources to afford mental health. When somebody says they have depression, people pretty much laugh at you and say, “take a look around you, there are worst things happening”, and no one has time to deal with your depression. They make you feel ashamed of yourself for being depressed, when you have basically everything you need. That’s also not so healthy, because we should be able to speak and express how we feel.
When we have more, we want more, then the depression comes. The environment brings you more challenges to be happy with yourself.
Wealth goes up, and the suicide rate goes up, the depression rate goes up, the PTSD (Post-traumatic stress disorder) goes up. The poorer the society the bigger the stress, but the poorer the society the more collaborative you get to be. People like to collaborate. During tough times you have to experience your better self, be collaborative, share with others and be better to serve others.
When you live in a developed society, you have the luxury of thinking individually. This means you don’t need to think about your neighbor because you know they’ll be just fine and you can just focus on your own goals. You have the pressure of society, you don’t want to fail, and you want to be part of the American dream. What gets lost in the way, it’s the collaborative part. We forget about the rest and that’s when we go astray.
The Question Is, Can We Have It All?
Could having it all be the answer? Will that be the “perfect” scenario? I don’t know, but I hope that people get more conscious of their surroundings. I hope that people with the luxury of thinking individually, give a little of their time to be more cooperative, not only for others but for their own spiritual health. There is more outside than our own worries and there is always a way to help and make positive changes. You can always start with the people around you.
Practice What You Preach
I am still learning to love and accept myself every day. There are some days that it gets very challenging. What helps me the most is to be conscious of everything that I have and live in gratitude. I personally believe in God and I try to keep him present in every moment of my life. Also one of the goals I set for myself this year is to remove the word “hate” from my vocabulary. Words have energy and power with the ability to help, to heal, to hinder, to hurt, to harm, to humiliate and to humble. Knowing the power of words, we should discipline ourselves to speak in a way that conveys respect, kindness and humility. We should speak with mindfulness, in a way to solidify peace and compassion. We must remember that we represent ourselves. What do you want to be known for?
The main thing that we are learning to do in this life is love. Let’s begin with loving ourselves.
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