Author Cathlene Miner on why leaders should always work on what they think of themselves
Always work on what you think of yourself first — your self-perception. When you are confident in yourself and what you are capable of, others believe the same in you as well. The team will feel the confidence and energy, and consequently, the team will achieve greatness together as a team and individually.
I had the pleasure of interviewing Cathlene Miner. Cathlene is an Author, Public Speaker, Fitness Expert, Life Coach, Radio Host, Model, and President of Non-Profit Helping Handbags, USA, Inc. As President of Helping Handbags, USA, Cathlene also uses her platform to support women who are staying in shelters and getting back on their feet by collecting once loved handbags and filling them with valuable necessities for donation. Cathlene is a married mother of 4 and grandmother to 2 and has taken her life of a single mother working three jobs to achieve things others only dream about.
Thank you so much for doing this with us! Can you tell us a story about what brought you to this specific career path?
My path was really a road of self-discovery. One that led to where I am naturally, as I grew to realize that my intuition would light me up and create my version of success. When I was a little girl, I always noticed my parents helping others out. Whether it be with their time, donations of clothes, or just having someone over for Holidays who would otherwise be alone. My parents were very young, hard workers and always very selfless. They also said that anything can be done when you have a passion for it. Innately, I always loved to help others who were facing tough times.
Can you share the most interesting story that happened to you since you began leading your company?
There have been so many amazing people whom I have met during my life career path, but the most interesting to me is the connection that I found with so many amazing women in this country and other countries. I have learned through the years that everything happens for a reason, but some of the people and circumstances that have come into my life to bring me where I am today, I would have never thought was the path I would have been on when I was younger. I feel beyond blessed to have a chance to know all these women.
Can you share a story about the funniest mistake you made when you were first starting? Can you tell us what lesson you learned from that?
The funniest mistake I made was thinking I didn’t need to know much about computers/IT to get where I am. I have never been a computer person, and in fact, I never was much for reading and writing, preferring to practice in the real world, and talking a lot. No one will be surprised that I am still talking! Computer and tech have been painful at times, however, I have learned both IT and writing. I believe that if you don’t take ownership of the whole process from beginning to end, you will not be successful in whatever you desire to do.
What do you think makes your company stand out? Can you share a story?
My company is reflective of my own authenticity. I believe that we can all do anything. There are no limits to amazingness and we spread that across to all women. It is all about helping people bring confidence into their life and realize that possibilities are endless. A story I would love to share is of a woman, who will remain anonymous, whom I met when she was going through a really hard time. She had suddenly lost a young loved one, and she just had no confidence. Once she began to work on her self-perception, she started realizing that she is amazing. She has everything already that it takes to be her version of success, and once she believed it herself, she began to soar both in her health and business. I am not saying it’s always easy, but we can all make these changes in ourselves and re-connect within.
Are you working on any exciting new projects now? How do you think that will help people?
It has been an exciting year, and we have a lot of new plans on the horizon. My motto has always been another year better, so with each rollout it is with that vision in mind. As with The 30 Day Self-Perception Makeover, I am designing a Self-Perception Makeover uniquely for teen girls, teen boys, and eventually men.
The book was originally created to create a healthy Self -Perception in women, and we all know the importance of a healthy Self-Perception during those crucial developmental years as a teenager because many of our negative self-perceptions begin in middle and high school.
What advice would you give to other female leaders to help their team to thrive?
Always work on what you think of you first. — your Self-Perception. When you are confident in yourself and what you are capable of, others believe the same in you as well. The team will feel the confidence and energy, and consequently, the team will achieve greatness together as a team and individually.
What advice would you give to other female leaders about the best way to manage a large team?
Always have an open door non-judgemental policy. Everyone goes through ups and downs, and we need to honor that in each of us. Recognize that we all have strengths and weaknesses. Allow others and yourself to thrive on strengths and admit weaknesses so that you can ask for assistance when needed. That is how we grow as people and business women. When a team works together and trusts one another, they can overcome tremendous odds and reach greater goals and their limitless potential.
None of us are able to achieve success without some help along the way. Is there a particular person who you are grateful towards who helped get you to where you are? Can you share a story about that?
Along with my parents, I have to say that my husband has been my biggest cheerleader. He is the one who always gives me encouragement and support every step of the way. He is also brutally honest with me. It’s great to have someone by your side who gives an outside perspective on a situation with your best interest in mind.
How have you used your success to bring goodness to the world? Philanthropy has always been essential to my work. I have always volunteered and given in whatever capacity I could at the time. That is why I am founder and President of the non-profit Helping Handbags, USA. We give hope to women living in the homeless shelters, one handbag at a time. Reminding them that what they are capable of is limitless. It is incredibly rewarding to see them make progress toward their dreams and their version of success.
What are your “5 Leadership Lessons I Learned From My Experience” and why. (Please share a story or example for each.)
Always listen — sometimes people will tell you what they need the most, in their words, without them realizing it.
Trust — unless proven otherwise — sometimes you will get burned, but you will be rewarded enough times by helping others that it is worth it.
Listen to your Intuition, your Gut — you know yourself the best.
Sit Quietly — it is a sign of respect for yourself and others.
Hold onto your Values — the better your self-perception, the easier it is to maintain your value system.
You are a person of great influence. If you could inspire a movement that would bring the most amount of good to the most amount of people, what would that be? You never know what your idea can trigger.
People need to realize the power of their own Self-Perception. I wish everyone had a healthy Self-Perception because judgments and doubts would be a thing of the past. The world would be a more peaceful place, and we would all be able to be happier, more productive, and fill our lives with our passions. Passions are joy.
Can you please give us your favorite “Life Lesson Quote”? Can you share how that was relevant to you in your life?
“What if I fall? Oh, my darling, but what if you fly…” Taking chances is imperative to fulfilling your dreams. If you believe you can, you will succeed at anything.
Some of the biggest names in Business, VC funding, Sports, and Entertainment read this column. Is there a person in the world, or in the US with whom you would love to have a private breakfast or lunch with, and why? He or she might just see this if we tag them :-)
Oprah Winfrey, she has always been someone I have loved to listen to. She always has real-life everyday tips that can be put into practice for our life to be amazing. I remember when I was younger, I was working when her talk show was on, so I would tape it — yes VHS — and watch it later or on the weekend.