Author & Entertainment Executive Robyn Stecher: “5 Things You Need to Know to Survive and Thrive During and After A Divorce”
An interview with Ilyssa Panitz
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One: Forgiveness is giving up hope for a better past.
Two: Blame is deficit spending on progress.
Three: You need one and only one person to confide in, rely upon, go to for hugs and who you know loves you. Do not shrug off that shoulder you can lean on.
Four: Get educated by trustworthy, referred professionals.
Five: Keep the children (if there are any) in the forefront and do not hold them hostage with your own issues, if you are stable and functional, loving, and attentive with them, they will learn resilience and optimism and coping skills.
Have you ever replayed your divorce inside your head and thought you yourself, “I can write a book about this!” Well one woman did as a way to support others going through a traumatizing, life-alerting event such as a divorce. Yes, a divorce is pretty much going to change everything that has been familiar, but sometimes shaking things up can have a positive outcome. You know how you go to the store, sift through the racks, pick out a few things to try on and then go into the dressing room to see how they look? What is the first thing you do after you close the door behind you? Take off what you are wearing. You forget about those old items on the floor because you are so focused on trying on the cool new things you found. If you see one you like, you cannot wait to buy it, show it off at work, to your friends or on a date. Think of your divorce like that outfit, own it and feel great! That is what Robyn Stecher did after her divorce. She shifted to the mindset I am done feeling yucky! During the day Shecher but a lot of emphasis on her job, represents some of the biggest names in Hollywood. At night Shecher went home to work on her new book…
