Author Martha Hunt Handler: “What we all need to understand is that one small, seeming inconsequential sentence has the power to change a person’s life and squash their dreams”

Authority Magazine Editorial Staff
Authority Magazine
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10 min readSep 22, 2020

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My main empowering lesson is to encourage young people to believe in their knowing, as Glennon Doyle so eloquently says in Untamed, and to remind adults to be careful not to use negative language around susceptible young people. I think we are all born with an innate sense of what our calling in this lifetime is. But often a parent or another respected adult will make a flippant remark like, “Looks like numbers aren’t really your thing,” or “You’re getting a bit of a belly. You’ll probably have to watch your weight your whole life,” or “You’re sure not very artistic, are you?” What we all need to understand is that one small, seeming inconsequential sentence has the power to change a person’s life and squash their dreams and knowing about who they are for a lifetime. I know this because it happened to me when I was seven. My parents had gone out to dinner and I’d spent the night writing and illustrating a book about a runaway bunny. I was so proud of my accomplishment, that I stayed up extra late to present it to them when they returned home. I also couldn’t wait to tell them that I’d decided to be a writer when I grew up. My dad read it and said, “Your drawings are poor, the story isn’t very compelling, and writers can’t support themselves, so you’d better come up with a more realistic career plan.” I…

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