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Dr. Heather Browne: How To Learn To Finally Love Yourself

When something gets hard or goes wrong, be gentle. Things will go wrong. Learn from it, but be gentle with yourself. Change is hard. Messing up is harder, but it is an absolutely important part of growth. Sit down with yourself and mark out what you have learned, what you can do to change it, and come up with a game plan. If you feel like apologizing to yourself will help, do it. And then tell yourself you will grow and learn from here and that you are really excited about who you right now are becoming.

  1. Am I proud of myself? Is there anywhere where I am not?
  2. 3. Am I a good role model for others as I am?
  3. Am I healthy?
  4. Is there anything that I haven’t done that I know hurts me?
  5. What’s on my resolution list that I haven’t addressed?
  6. What does my boss or family ask me to work on?
  7. Where do I let myself off too easily?
  8. What am I doing that I know is hurting me?
  1. When a negative thought pops into your mind, ask yourself if this thought serves you or if that thought is one that you want to keep thinking? It is one of the quickest ways to recognize when you are creating a negative experience for yourself. Just yesterday I put on a dress that I haven’t worn in a long time. I also haven’t been exercising as often as I had been when I last wore that dress. My immediate thought was, “Your thighs look big.” That isn’t a thought that serves me well, so I took off the dress, realized it’s time to do some more yoga and thanked the dress for this helpful information. I chose a dress that is looser and I looked great. And tomorrow, I have a yoga class. I will try the dress again in two weeks. Until then, it hangs in my closest to remind me I look better when I do yoga. And that is helpful.
  2. When you want to be lazy versus complete something that is important, ask yourself “What is the best choice for me to do?” I live alone except for my pets. It would be really easy for me to not do the dishes, not take out the trash, and not pick up he poops until someone is coming over. But I feel better with a clean house and yard. And it is better for my pets and my things to be cared for. It also makes me happy to come home and walk into a clean place that is welcoming. I don’t have to do these things, but I choose to as I feel better about me. And I thank myself for caring about my experience too.
  3. Treat yourself. Do things for yourself and consider it a treat. Coffee in the morning can be a treat. Do simple things that please you. Listen to music, light candles, watch a movie, eat popcorn, ride your bike, watch a sunset. Remember that you are treating yourself. You can do this a 1000 times a day. Each thing you do can be a gift to yourself. And that feels good. There is joy in simple things you do to bless you.
  4. When something gets hard or goes wrong, be gentle. Things will go wrong. Learn from it, but be gentle with yourself. Change is hard. Messing up is harder, but it is an absolutely important part of growth. Sit down with yourself and mark out what you have learned, what you can do to change it, and come up with a game plan. If you feel like apologizing to yourself will help, do it. And then tell yourself you will grow and learn from here and that you are really excited about who you right now are becoming.

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