Family & Divorce Lawyer Magnolia Levy: “5 Things You need To Know to Survive and Thrive During and After a Divorce”

An interview with Ilyssa Panitz

Magnolia Levy saw first hand what can happen if you get caught short. That is why she is determined to help others avoid this mistake.

One: Do not cede control of the finances to your spouse during your marriage! I know there is a division of labor during the marriage but stay involved, stay engaged, and stay in the know.

Two: You do not have to listen to everyone. When you tell people you are divorcing, everyone will have an opinion. Pick one or two people to confide in and listen to, along with your lawyer, and tune out the rest of the Greek Chorus.

Three: Your children are watching everything you say and do. Make sure they feel safe, loved, and supported. Do your best to present a unified front with your spouse.

Four: No one wins a divorce. Prepare for an emotional roller coaster. It has its ups, it has its downs, it will make you nauseous, but the ride ends.

Five: It will be okay. You will be okay. Your kids will be okay. Day follows night and this too shall pass.

If something doesn’t feel right, chances are it isn’t. If things aren’t adding up and you see red flags wherever you go, don’t use Waze to look for another route, face this head on! What you may discover about your spouse may send you into a tailspin but (and I stress the, “BUT”) you have to rally, pull yourself together and position yourself to learn gory details. As awful as this will be, and yes it will be horrendous, what you uncover about your husband/wife could be vital to your case and the ultimate payback that will have you doing the happy dance! Here is an example. Let’s say your hubby has been using a secret credit card to make purchases at Chanel, Neiman Marcus, Roberto Cavalli as…