“Fear of being alone may especially come up for those who compartmentalize their feelings, bypass their pain, or habitually feed off of distraction.” with Aarona Lea and Sasza Lohery

Sasza Lohrey
Mar 1, 2019 · 19 min read

Fear of being alone may especially come up for those who compartmentalize their feelings, bypass their pain, or habitually feed off of distraction. Many of us likely struggle with this at times in our life, especially with the overload of information that has become an intricate part of modern culture. With all of this at play, being alone can reveal the baseline anxiety that lives within us, so we want to medicate it with distraction. Yet if we keep running from being alone and filling that hole, eventually it will catch up with us. Loss and change is a part of life, which is typically a time that is asking us to go within and be with whatever arises so that we can evolve. The relationship we have with ourselves is the most intimate one we will ever have.

As a part of my series about “Connecting With Yourself To Live With Better Relationships” I had the pleasure to interview Aarona Lea. Inspired by 23 years of yoga, 14 years as a yoga teacher and wellness adviser, an array of alternative therapies, and a love of writing and travel — Aarona is influenced by several personal-development roadmaps. What started as a personal need for survival, eventually became a passion turned profession.
As a teacher, speaker, author, business owner, and intuitive oracle reader, Aarona helps to demystify self-love and personal growth while encouraging others to create more wellness in their life through a commitment to daily practice, even if they only have three minutes a day. Starting her own healing journey as a child, her curiosity led her on a life-long journey of study, practice, and ritual where she explored the shadowy depths of healing trauma, fully recovered from chronic cycles of bulimia, and continues to help normalize conversations around emotional health. As the author and co-creator of the healing oracle set ‘The Moon Deck’, Aarona teaches practices and rituals to help bring balance and perspective to life’s greatest breaths so that each individual can transform and grow with more honesty, intuition, and ease. Aarona also facilitates empowering workshops and retreats worldwide, offers private and group Intuitive Oracle Readings, teaches yoga classes at Wanderlust in LA, and runs The Moon Deck biz full time. She’s been featured in Mind Body Green, Gaia, Free People Blog, New York Times, Self Magazine, National Geographic Traveler UK, Teach.Yoga, The Beauty Book, Well+Good, The Weather Channel, Wall Street Journal, Fréttblaðið of Iceland, Times of India, Origin Magazine, the cover of FitYoga, NBC, Elephant Journal, Yoga Journal, and various podcasts. You can learn more about Aarona’s offerings at
www.aaronalea.com and www.themoondeck.com

  • Am I truly happy in my life? If the answer is no, look at which areas are suffering — relationships, career, health, self-worth, spirituality, overall outlook, finances, etc. Do you feel peace or do you feel stress mentally, emotionally, physically, or spiritually? Then take a closer look at what actions (or lack of) and choices have added up, revealing where you are not feeling fulfilled or happy. Take one small step towards bringing more balance and a fresh perspective to the area that is needing the most support.
  1. Ritual — every couple of months I choose 1–3 new self-care rituals or actions to work with. I may reintroduce something I’ve slipped up on (i.e.: nightly flossing or drinking more water) or bring in something new that I want to awaken in my life (i.e.: a prosperity meditation or an intention candle). I like to choose something that feels like a big yes in my body and commit to a time frame I know I will do. A great and accessible 15 minute morning practice is to hold a forearm plank for 5 minutes, meditate for 5 minutes, and then write in your journal for 5 minutes. Set your timer for each round. If you know you won’t commit to that, then do a minute of each — I know you can spare 3 minutes!
  2. Self-talk — Observing how I speak to or about myself is a huge practice for me right now. Even just noticing the inner-dialogue more often today than yesterday is a huge step. I’m learning that when I verbally beat myself up, it’s a sign that I’m taking things for granted. When I catch myself doing it I change the language to the exact opposite statement so that I can turn a negative into a positive and reprogram my thought process towards a more loving one. As silly as it sounds, sometimes I’ll even turn it into a song and it works like a charm!
  3. Breathe — When I’m leading my team meetings or conversing with friends and family I’ve been practicing mindful breathing whether I’m listening or speaking. I have a lot of energy, can sometimes interrupt, and at times deal with anxiety, so this has been a really important practice for me. I need to consciously choose to do this over and over again because I can easily forget (yes, even as a yoga teacher!). Slow down, feel your body, and take in the moment. Even if you only remember to do this once a day, it’s a huge step and will add up by the end of a week.
  4. Ride or die — It’s crucial that we have a couple of ride or dies in our life who love and accept us through the ugly and the beautiful moments. I can’t express enough how this literally saved me over the last two years with so much unraveling taking place. Keep a few people close by, who really get you and embrace all of you (and vice versa). It’s such an important piece of the pie when it comes to remaining in love and connected with yourself. Not to mention it gives you an opportunity to practice being in a healthy and evolving relationship through thick and thin.

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Sasza Lohrey

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Leadership Lessons from Authorities in Business, Film, Sports and Tech. Authority Mag is devoted primarily to sharing interesting feature interviews of people who are authorities in their industry. We use interviews to draw out stories that are both empowering and actionable.

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