Joie De Vivre, Living With A Ravenous Thirst For Life: “Sing an uplifting song when you get out of bed every morning” With Jollytologist Allen Klein & Dr. Marina Kostina
Sing an uplifting song when you get out of bed every morning. Since I am grateful for all the wonderful things in my life, and the fact that I can still do most of them at my age, my song revolves around gratitude: “Thank you for this day, Lord, thank you for this day….”
Do you ever wake up in the morning feeling unhappy, unfulfilled, unchallenged, and have nothing to look forward to? It doesn’t have to be that way. One idea that I always advise my clients is to “Get Out of your mind and connect with your spirit”. Be creative. I don’t care if you pain over the same canvas, or knit, undo- and knit again, or cook and feed it all to pigeons- I want you to get into the process of creativity as when we create we are out of our mind, we tap into the realm of the spirit and we learn how to manifest!
As a part of our series interviewing experts on how to live a “ravenous life” — a life filled with the passion, pleasure, playfulness and abundance that come naturally to those who dare to be authentic, I had the pleasure of interviewing Allen Klein. Klein, the world’s only Jollytologist®, is an award-winning professional speaker and best-selling author who shows audiences how to find more joy through humor and positivity. He is also the author of such uplifting books as The Healing Power of Humor, and, You Can’t Ruin My Day. Comedian Jerry Lewis has said that Klein is “a noble and vital force watching over the human condition.” www.allenklein.com
Thank you so much for doing this with us! Can you tell us a story about what brought you to this specific career path?
My interest in therapeutic humor happened after my wife died of a terminal illness. She was 34 at the time. I saw how humor helped us momentarily rise above the situation and give us a little reprieve from our difficult situation. (See example below)
What does it mean for you to live “on purpose”? Can you explain? How can one achieve that?
I think living on purpose is following what you are called to do. After my wife died I needed to tell the world how important humor was in trying times. I gave up a business I had and started to share what I had experienced. My advice to others is to listen to what your heart is telling you, follow your passion and don’t let fear stop you.
Do you have an example or story in your own life of how your pain helped to guide you to finding your life’s purpose?
My wife, Ellen, lay dying in the hospital, a copy of Playgirl magazine by her side. Suddenly, she opened to the male nude centerfold and insisted it be put on the wall. “I think it’s too risqué for the hospital,” I said.
“Nonsense,” she replied. “Just take a leaf from the plant and cover up the genitals.”
I did as she requested. That worked well for the first and second day but by the third day, the leaf started to shrivel and reveal more of what we were trying to conceal.
We laughed every time we looked at a plant or a dried-up leaf. It brought us closer together, revived us, and steered us through our sea of darkness.
The United States is currently rated at #18 in the World Happiness Report. Can you share a few reasons why you think the ranking is so low?
I think one of the main reasons we get such a low World Happiness score is because of our ultra-competitive, technology-focused, fast-paced, environment. We forget to stop and smell the roses. We forget to take the time to appreciate the simpler things in life. Things like a walk in the park, the smell of a freshly baked bread, the color of a Spring flower, the drops of dew on a leaf, a smile from a stranger, etc.
One of the ways we can nurture that is to see things with beginner’s eyes, like a child where everything is new, fresh and exciting.
How have you used your success to bring goodness to the world?
Even though I almost failed speech in college, I have been an award-winning professional speaker for over twenty-years. I put aside my fear of speaking behind me in order to share my passion with the world, which is that humor can help us rise above any situation. I have done that with both my keynote talks and workshops, as well as through the twenty-six books I have authored.
What are your 6 strategies to help you face your day with exuberance, “Joie De Vivre” and a “ravenous thirst for life”? Can you please give a story or example for each:
1- Sing an uplifting song when you get out of bed every morning. Since I am grateful for all the wonderful things in my life, and the fact that I can still do most of them at my age, my song revolves around gratitude: “Thank you for this day, Lord, thank you for this day….”
2- Be thankful for everything in your life. Yes, even the not-so-great stuff. We are often thankful for the good stuff in our life, yet the not-so-great stuff can be some of our best teachers and lead us to our true calling. I certainly didn’t want my wife to die but that incident led me to the therapeutic humor career I have today.
3- Have some lighten-up reminders around, like red clown noses or something else that brings a smile to your face. One of my favorites is a photo of my teenage daughter who wanted to have a cream pie thrown in her face. The photo of the incident, with her amazing over-the-top smile, uplifts me whenever I see it.
4- Smile more often. It instantly connects you to others. It has been said that a smile is a light on your face to let someone know you are home. Try it.
5- Get the “voices-of-doom” out of your life. Hang around with happy people. I remember when I lived in New York City I would pass a woman who would tell me all about the bad stuff that happened in the neighborhood that week. I don’t know why but it took me a long time to realize that I didn’t have to walk in her direction. I could take a different route and not have to listen to her negative rants.
6- Don’t let anyone, or anything, take away your power. How often do you let other people, or other situations, ruin you day? You don’t have to do that. Change your attitude about a situation and you change the situation.
Do you have any favorite books, podcasts, or resources that most inspired you to live with a thirst for life?
It has been said that we teach what we need to learn. Perhaps it is why I write inspirational, uplifting and motivational books. Authoring them helps me stay positive and to live an inspired life. One of my favorites is You Can’t Ruin My Day because of its simple easy-to-accomplish ideas for not letting anyone, or anything, ruin your day…or your life.
My favorite authors, among others, are Wayne Dyer and Richard Carlson. And more recently, Tosha Silver.
Can you please give us your favorite “Life Lesson Quote” that relates to having a Joie De Vivre? Can you share how that was relevant to you in your life?
It’s a quotation I authored in my book, The Healing Power of Humor. It sums up my philosophy about life — it is not what happens to us, it’s the way we see it. The quotation is:
“Your attitude is like a box of crayons that color your world.”
Are you working on any exciting new projects now? How do you think that will help people?
I am currently working on my 27th book which will be published in 2019 by Mango Publishers. The title is Positive Thoughts for Troubling Times. My hope is that some of the powerful ideas in the book will help them make a difference in the world.
You are a person of great influence. If you could inspire a movement that would bring the most amount of good to the most amount of people, what would that be? You never know what your idea can trigger. :-)
Everyone in the world would have a “bounce-back-buddy.” Whenever someone is down, they contact their bounce-back-buddy to help that person get out of their doldrums and lighten up.
About The Author:
Dr. Marina Kostina is a life and business fulfillment coach. She uses research and energy work to help professional women find their purpose and turn it into a profitable business. Dr. Kostina incorporates innovative marketing strategies and the creation of engaging, lucrative online courses to scale their businesses. As a result they enjoy what she describes as a “ravenous life” — a life filled with the passion, pleasure, playfulness and abundance that come naturally to those who dare to be authentic. Her book “Find the G-Spot of Your Soul” is available January 2018. Download a free gift from Dr. Kostina- an MP3 Meditation Album “Find The G –Spot Of Your Soul” and get unstuck.