Power Women: Dr Christina Jerger of femsaloud On How To Successfully Navigate Work, Love and Life As A Powerful Woman

Balance your feminine and masculine energy. Feminine is the being and relaxing, masculine is the doing and hustling. In a way you create that balance, you will feel the positive difference in your life.

How does a successful, strong, and powerful woman navigate work, employee relationships, love, and life in a world that still feels uncomfortable with strong women? In this interview series, called “Power Women” we are talking to accomplished women leaders who share their stories and experiences navigating work, love and life as a powerful woman.

As a part of this series, I had the distinct pleasure of interviewing Dr. Christina Jerger.

Dr. Christina Jerger is a female embodiment and femininity coach for female entrepreneurs, executives, and celebrities based in Los Angeles, CA. After finding herself burned out from the constant hustle in her corporate career and frustrating relationships with men, she embarked on a self-discovery journey to reconnect with her femininity. With her revolutionary and sensual coaching she now helps elite women from all over the world to be feminine and thrive in all areas of life.

Thank you so much for doing this with us! Before we dig in, our readers would like to get to know you a bit more. Can you tell us a bit about your childhood “backstory”?

I was born and raised in Germany with a younger brother, my parents and our lovely cat. Form very early on, I was told to be the good girl, do whatever people expect me to do and somewhat shut my emotional side down to not cause any trouble at social gatherings. I enjoyed being different and was a shy but also very rebellious teenager who wanted to break free but got caught in the societal structures. To fit in, I invested my time and effort in a good education, studied, and added a PhD to get that well-paid job as a woman. As so many women can relate, being truly feminine was labelled as weak, unprofessional, too emotional and sexy for having actual success in life.

Can you tell us the story about what led you to this particular career path?

All my effort worked out for me: I landed some very good jobs, and the best corporate one at Mercedes. I put even more effort into my career and was chasing achievements and success for years thinking it would lead me to fulfillment, finally. After years I felt emptier rather than overly happy and thriving, to be honest. I had one of the best jobs, that education, a long-term relationship, I traveled to the most epic places in the world, but something just didn’t feel right. I burned out at the age of 36.

One day, I looked into the mirror and saw this harsh, unemotional, very masculine woman. Being so tired from playing other people’s games, not being authentic, and feminine. After the burnout and frustrating relationships with men, I quit my career, started all over again and moved to Bali to have my ‘Eat Pray Love’ moment and to find myself. What I actually found was my femininity and authenticity that I had pushed down for years believing that being feminine is not appropriate. My intuition, my emotions, my sensuality, numbed. Through a lot of mindset and female embodiment work my whole life shifted, so much more abundance, improved health, so many great men, I’ve never felt so radiant and sexy before, now my life feels orgasmic.

Based on my own experiences, I now help successful sophisticated women to reconnect with their femininity, thrive in all areas of life and to get that sexy feminine glow back. They become fully authentic, irresistible, and that’s incredibly magnetic!

Can you share the most interesting story that happened to you since you began your career?

It’s always super inspiring to see how the women in my coaching containers shift their lives the moment they start working with me. It’s like their true authentic self was asleep like Snow White and then comes back to full bloom. They have so much more drive, more clarity, and they attract abundance, success, and people into their lives with so much more ease. Some attracted more abundance with pursuing a career that truly felt aligned. Some have found their dream man after dating passive, indecisive men for years. They now have fulfilling relationships, a steamy sex life and the best orgasms. Some women got rid of their health struggles, burnout, painful periods and even infertility.

You are a successful business leader. Which three character traits do you think were most instrumental to your success? Can you please share a story or example for each?

First, starting my own business definitely required me to be persistent. I’ve become my biggest cheerleader and bff in good and bad times. No matter what kind of obstacles come up, I can not give up. It is never an option, I have no plan B. I created a business and brand that I’m so incredibly proud of and what reflects my purpose and who I am so perfectly. Second, it’s having this strong purpose and why, being aligned and motivated and excited and so turned on by my work and what I’m creating to get up every morning to make incredible things happen. And third, embodying my feminine is what helps me to relax, recharge and avoid burning out. It’s that healthy balance between working hard and being a feminine, soft, compassionate woman. Being feminine doesn’t make you less of a successful woman!

Ok, thank you for that. Let’s now jump to the primary focus of our interview. The premise of this series assumes that our society still feels uncomfortable with strong women. Why do you think this is so?

Good question! I think it’s not about feeling uncomfortable per se when a powerful and independent woman enters the room. It can be so inspiring to watch her feminine grace, how she carries herself, and when she speaks about her achievements, and her clarity about what she wants and what her standards are. She shouldn’t be a trigger to start a comparison or judgement! Goes for both men and women by the way. I think it says more about the person feeling uncomfortable around a strong woman. Why does she or he get triggered or feels her or his beliefs getting crossed by an independent woman’s powerful behavior?

Without saying any names, can you share a story from your own experience that illustrates this idea?

Absolutely, yes. I made those experiences when speaking about my educational background. Having a PhD is somewhat triggering for some people as I mentioned before. Some react impressed and unfortunately, some feel intimidated by a powerful and highly educated woman. I remember one moment at work, when I mentioned that I’m experienced with a great technique to analyze new marketing materials. It would have levelled up the quality and results which the department needed badly. Instead, my boss told me ‘to not write a dissertation about this’ and to keep it as simple as they always did it. Same goes for dating, some men have started this kind of educational comparison and felt bad around me not having a PhD. Again, it says a lot about the other person and not about the powerful woman who knows who she is and what she wants in her life.

What should a powerful woman do in a context where she feels that people are uneasy around her?

To put it straightforward, it’s not her task to make other people feel better. Rather, I would highly encourage all powerful women to not dim their lights. They clearly stand out and I absolutely love that! They define the new society and it’s super inspiring to see them shine and create change. What I can highly suggest every amazing woman is to take good care of herself! Because constantly being in the power mode easily burns her precious energy and can lead to unhealthy behavioral patterns. Stepping back, relaxing, and receiving is truly feminine and nourishing.

What do we need to do as a society to change the unease around powerful women?

Unfortunately, the femininity discussions wanted to position women and men as equal but in the same way they needed us women to step up, to change, and to be more like men to be comparable in terms of e.g. societal achievements and salaries. Society needs to relearn that men and women are not equal, physically and mentally they are different. It means to value their uniqueness without blaming the other gender for the difference. The masculine is the doing, purpose, safety, the feminine is the being, receiving, nurturing. In that way, women are allowed to embody their feminine and to allow men to serve and provide without feeling left behind and without the men feeling uneasy around powerful women.

In my own experience, I have observed that often women have to endure ridiculous or uncomfortable situations to achieve success that men don’t have to endure. Do you have a story like this from your own experience? Can you share it with us?

I experienced this myself and actually hear it from many of my clients, too, that they feel the need to prove themselves more often than men. For tasks, for asking for a promotion or even when pitching for a funding for their own business. In one of my jobs my boss at that time told every woman he was hiring that they are not allowed to get pregnant within the next two years after starting the position. First, it’s disrespectful and second, no one is allowed to tell you how you design your own life! Today, I would clearly say, if you make this a criteria to hire me, we are not a good fit and I’m not signing this contract. I appreciate a work environment that values my authentic self as a woman more than playing a role long-term for getting paid. A powerful feminine woman knows her values and standards and takes aligned actions!

In your opinion, what are the biggest challenges faced by women leaders that aren’t typically faced by their male counterparts?

It’s like women have to showcase their good work and themselves over and over again. That’s a massive pressure society creates! Besides, women can’t be authentic and feminine. Regarding the beliefs about being feminine I spoke about earlier, it’s exactly that: being feminine is seen as weak in terms of she gets pregnant and can’t work, she is on her period and needs to stay home, she is emotional and can’t do her work properly, she is not productive or too sexy and distracts men from doing work, I mean HELLO? In contrast, society pictures men as the powerful warriors, showing up every single day at work, having no period-related downtime (even the wording lets women feel inappropriate for being human), no children, no emotional meltdowns and baggage because men are not emotional (which is obviously not true), resulting in hyper productivity which is of course the best outcome for any company. It seems like men can be men, themselves, as this is what the male-dominated leadership spaces validate and reward with social status and appreciation. This has to stop also in terms of respecting men! There is so much more depth to that discussion, it would make another great topic to talk about.

Let’s now shift our discussion to a slightly different direction. This is a question that nearly everyone with a job has to contend with. Was it difficult to fit your personal and family life into your business and career? For the benefit of our readers, can you articulate precisely what the struggle was?

Yes and no. When I had my corporate career at Mercedes it definitely was. I got so overwhelmed by my work life, wanted to become even better in my private life, spiralled up my career with starting to learn Chinese on the weekends, did more to become a better employee to finally get the promotion. I cut my private life short, stopped doing the things I love and also my relationship suffered. I had no time left for myself because I didn’t make it a priority! You know how this ended for me. So today in my own business, I have established a very healthy work-life balance and it’s super easy to maintain it. I actually work less and achieve better results. I create my work schedule according to my needs, the phases of my menstrual cycle, and set enough time aside for taking good care of myself.

What was a tipping point that helped you achieve a greater balance or greater equilibrium between your work life and personal life? What did you do to reach this equilibrium?

Clearly, it was my burnout, the ultimate tipping point where I had to change something immediately. I hired a life coach, went to therapy, moved to Bali, ended my relationship, and quit my job. I needed to drastically break down the life I had built to start all over again, on a new fundament that was stable and aligned with my authentic self. Since then I have implemented very different routines, I work in alignment with my needs, my purpose and my femininity, which has actually been the biggest game changer in my entire life.

Ok super. Here is the main question of our interview. Based on your opinion and experience, what are the “Five Things You Need To Thrive and Succeed as a Powerful Woman?”

After having coached so many amazing women, these are exactly 5 things they have implemented to start thriving and living a fulfilled and very juicy life.

1 . Balance your feminine and masculine energy. Feminine is the being and relaxing, masculine is the doing and hustling. In a way you create that balance, you will feel the positive difference in your life.

2 . Activate your feminine magnetism. It supports you with attracting aligned opportunities, abundance, and people with ease, including your dream man.

3 . Follow your intuition. Your intuition helps you to make better and aligned decisions rather than focusing on your logic only.

4 . Do cycle syncing which means scheduling tasks according to the phases of your cycle. This makes you more productive while burning out less likely.

5 . Embrace self-care as often as possible, e.g. get your nails done, have a massage, cook a nourishing meal, you got this! Self-care recharges and values your feminine.

We are very blessed that some very prominent names in Business, VC funding, Sports, and Entertainment read this column. Is there a person in the world, or in the US with whom you would love to have a private breakfast or lunch with, and why? He or she might just see this if we tag them.

I’d love to brunch with Lady Gaga. I love her energy and the way she carries herself and created her career against any obstacles. Being crazy is what other people don’t understand, it’s breaking the rules to create something new and this takes a lot of courage. I’d love to chat about femininity, pick her brain for a few ideas I have on my mind and find out what she loves having for breakfast.

Thank you for these fantastic insights. We greatly appreciate the time you spent on this.

Thank you for having me. It was a pleasure to share my story and inspire more amazing women to live a juicy and orgasmic life.