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Slow Down to Do More: “Bake New Pies, Don’t Just Divide The Ones We Have” With Ashley Graber and Paige Arnof-Fenn

I would love to start a movement of kindness where everyone takes the high road, is a giver not a taker, gives people the benefit of the doubt, and realizes that life is not a zero sum game. If we all focused on figuring out ways to bake new pies and not just divide the ones we have we’d all be a lot better off. Just be kind. It would be a nice counterbalance to what we see in Washington and all over the media today.

  • Exercise — doing something active every day to stay healthy and break up my day
  • Lunch meetings — I get out of the office 3–5 days a week which is a great way to stay connected personally and professionally and shake up my routine and get going.
  • Social media and technology are 24/7 so it is easy to get sucked into it but you do not have to let it run your life! My advice is to pick a few things you enjoy doing and do them really well. You cannot be everywhere all the time so choose high impact activities that work for you and play to your strengths.
  • Disconnect from technology and focus on cultivating human, face to face relationships. Meeting for coffee or lunch can accomplish so much more than e-mail exchanges, social media posts, etc. and it is a great way to get to know people better, their interests, hobbies, and dreams. I have found that building relationships is what drives my business and technology supports them once they are solidified. Technology helps advance the conversation but it will never replace the human interaction that builds trust over time. I plan lunch meetings 3–5 days a week and invite clients to events I think they might enjoy attending to spend time together.
  • Find creative ways to multi task that incorporates work and exercise. When I worked at large companies they had gyms at the office or groups who walked at lunch but when you are an entrepreneur you have to get creative to slow down and find balance. Instead of meeting up with your local colleagues at a coffee shop, over a meal or chatting with them on the phone, meet them for a walk so you can catch up while you are getting some exercise too. You’ll feel great after, the time will fly & it will be a fun activity to share. It works with customers too, I have clients who play golf so sometimes we meet at a driving range instead of the office to discuss things especially when you are trying to think outside the box. A change in venue is always nice and you feel so much better when you are moving and not trapped behind your desk.
  • Own your calendar — scheduling important meetings as far out as possible while leaving smaller blocks of time each week for opportunistic discussions and white space on my calendar so that I have time to think and recharge on a regular basis. When I started my business I used to over schedule myself and even double book networking events at night so I could be as many places as possible. Now that I am more established I prefer a less is more approach to events and meetings so that I can spend more time in fewer places.



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Ashley Graber M.A., LMFT

Founder of the Evenflow App. Motivational Speaker, Psychotherapist, & Mindfulness Educator