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“To optimize your mental wellness disconnect from the ‘shoulds’”, with Lee Chaix McDonough and Beau Henderson

Disconnect from the “shoulds.” Many of us go through life with a non-stop recording of what we “should” be doing, and all of those shoulds can kill our confidence and our motivation. It’s time to stop “shoulding” on yourself! The next time your inner critic pipes up with you what you’re doing wrong or should be doing instead, create some emotional distance between yourself and the thought. So if your critic says, “You’ll never land that client,” simply say, “I’m having the thought that I’ll never land that client.” You can even take it a step further and say, “I’m noticing that I’m having the thought that I’ll never land that client.” This simple language trick allows you to separate yourself and your identity from your thoughts, and in that separation, you create space for choice. You get to decide whether the thought is helpful or not, and whether you want to buy into it. Most importantly, you remind yourself that you are not your thoughts, and just because your mind says something doesn’t make it true.

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Beau Henderson

Author | Radio Host | Syndicated Columnist | Retirement Planning Expert