“When we understand ourselves and love ourselves, we can appreciate imperfections as merely manifestations of being human.” with Patrick Tully

When we understand ourselves and love ourselves, we can appreciate imperfections as merely manifestations of being human. In this way, we will be able to connect to others based on a feeling of shared humanity. This feeling is universal and wonderful. However, on the path to self-love and acceptance, we encounter resistance from our minds and thus we must be patient and loving for the level of self-love we have at the moment. As a result, we will become able to be patient with others as we connect with them and deepen our relationships.

As a part of my series about “Learning To Finally Love Yourself” I had the pleasure to interview Patrick Tully, a private practice psychotherapist in Los Angeles. He works with anyone who feels like an “other.” These include but are not limited to individuals and couples in the LGBTQ community, as well as people who have health challenges such as hearing loss. Patrick himself has partial hearing loss and is gay. Having these unique life factors has taught him to survive oppression and has led him to be the person he is today, who is kind and compassionate, and who wants to help others who seek a more fulfilling life. His website can be found at https://www.patricktullytherapy.com. For anyone in California, Patrick offers encrypted video therapy. His office, for in-person sessions, is located in West LA.

Thank you so much for joining us! I’d love to begin by asking you to give us the backstory as to what brought you to this specific career path.

Thank you for having me! I grew up in a world where I felt so different from everyone else. I started participating in personal therapy in high school when my anxiety became intolerable for me. I did not know how to manage the pressures and demands of life coupled with school, so coming to therapy and being…