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Women in Wellness: “We need our own love, kindness and reassurance”, With Jessica Ortner of The Tapping Solution

Be kind to yourself — I used to believe if I wasn’t hard on myself then I wouldn’t take action on my dreams. I would criticize myself to try to motivate myself, but that only works in the short run. Imagine a child being constantly criticized. Would they thrive in that environment? Of course not and neither do you. That critical voice is often a part of us that feels scared. We need our own love, kindness and reassurance.

  1. Be kind to yourself — I used to believe if I wasn’t hard on myself then I wouldn’t take action on my dreams. I would criticize myself to try to motivate myself, but that only works in the short run. Imagine a child being constantly criticized. Would they thrive in that environment? Of course not and neither do you. That critical voice is often a part of us that feels scared. We need our own love, kindness and reassurance.
  2. Reflect on your past — The patterns we have now that we want to change are often patterns that served us as children. Maybe you spoke up in class and you were criticized so you learned it was safer to play small and be quiet. That might have help you avoid criticism as a child but now as an adult it’s stopping you from pursuing a dream. When we can Tap while we focus on those (sometimes small) past events we can experience a big shift.
  3. Don’t overthink the future — When we have a goal, it’s easy to get in the habit of overthinking. We think we need all the answers before we can start. We try to figure out answers to problems that don’t even exist yet. Overthinking is what we do when we are scared. Spend a few minutes Tapping to address the fear. Failure isn’t the opposite of success, it’s part of it. Have the courage to try something new!
  4. Have an attitude of gratitude — If you can read this, you are luckier than over one billion people who cannot read. No matter how bad our current situation is, there is always something to be grateful for. Besides the multiple health benefits of gratitude, it also makes us more resilient.
  1. Trust life — Some of the biggest disappointments in my life have led to my greatest blessings. Take a moment to look back. Was there something in your life that was horrible at the time but end up being a big blessing? Maybe it was a breakup that leads you to meet someone who truly values you or a job loss that leads you to take a step towards your dreams. The hard moments are often a catalyst to something even better.
  2. Release Perfectionism — Success is a game of trial and error which means it’s a game you can’t play if you’re constantly on the sidelines, questioning whether you can do things perfectly. All the pressure to get things perfect can lead to years of procrastination. Done is better than perfect.
  3. You don’t need all the answers to start Trying to map out every step before you start only leads to fear and overwhelm. With every step forward you have a new vantage point and can make better decisions. Just focus on the step you have right in front of you.
  4. Say no to drama — Drama takes energy. Pursuing your dreams takes energy. You only have so much energy. Choose wisely where you spend that energy.

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Dr. William Seeds

Board-certified orthopedic surgeon and physician, with over 22 years of experience, specializing in all aspects of sports medicine and total joint treatments