Listening Before You Speak
You don’t have to have opinions in public until you’re ready.
Finding the Autistic community is an experience like no other, especially for adults who grew up unaware of autism or unaware of people like themselves in organized groups. The strong emotions of homecoming, belonging or nervousness about finding a place to belong, pride in a new identity, and joy of a camaraderie perhaps never before known can be intoxicating. The number of people to meet and amount of information to absorb seem infinite, impossible. It’s as overwhelming as it would be to stumble through a mountain pass on a hike and find a lost homeland in the hidden valley below.
Finding other Autistic people for the first time is as intense as life experiences get, joyful but also potentially fraught. It’s an event most Autistic people experience, since relatively few of us grow up with access to the community, but relatively little advice exists for navigating this important transition. One thing persons new to the community should know is that they don’t need to join the clamor of voices you hear immediately. There are actually at least a couple of reasons that taking some time to get oriented before speaking out publicly may be best for you and the Autistic community in the long run.
First, there is the importance of thinking carefully before you speak on the internet, where everything you say will probably outlive you. The trick to life in Autistic blogosphere is remembering that you will continue to grow and change as long as you live, but past selves of yours will live on. Rubbing shoulders with yourself circa five years ago is unavoidable once you have had opinions in public for five years. There is no way to be certain you will always agree with these ghosts.
Originally published at autisticfuture.com on January 24, 2018.