Love Won’t Make You Happy

The trick is finding happiness before you find love.

Joe Donan
Joe Donan
Feb 18 · 17 min read

“I once had a girl, or should I say, she once had me?”
The Beatles, Norwegian Woods

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The huge mistake a lot of people make: Delegating the responsibility of their happiness on a partner

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Actual photo of me back then.

If you aren’t happy, then you’re not ready for love. Starting a relationship before you find happiness in your life will only bring misery upon your partner and subsequently upon yourself.

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If you want to be loved and happy, you have to love yourself and be happy by yourself first.

Your happiness is your responsibility, and yours only. If you think a person can, or should make you happy, you’ll be placing an unbearable burden upon their shoulders, one they won’t be able to carry long, and will eventually put down.

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Why do we believe happiness can be found in someone else, then?

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You can actually live happily ever after — just not because of someone else.

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Joe Donan

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Average Joe

Articles on life lessons, love & relationships, personal growth, and the world we live in.

Joe Donan

Written by

Joe Donan

Husband • Father • Educator • Writer • Artisan • Pizza chomper

Average Joe

Articles on life lessons, love & relationships, personal growth, and the world we live in.

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