What’s a third place? Where’s yours?

I came across this concept of Third place last year when I stumbled upon Third Place (by Half Full Brewery). Third Place is a free co-working space with a small cafe and beer on tap. It has wonderful outdoor space, cubicles for private calls, and has events year round with food trucks and open mics (this isn’t sponsored content). I found myself talking to the founder and he briefly touched on the concept of wanting to create a Third place for people. I didn’t fully understand what he meant until I went deeper.

A “third place” refers to a social environment distinct from the two primary places where people spend most of their time: home (the “first place”) and work (the “second place”). Third places are informal public gathering spaces where individuals can relax, socialize, and build community. Examples include cafes, parks, libraries, and community centers. The concept was popularized by urban sociologist Ray Oldenburg, who emphasized the importance of these spaces for fostering social interaction and community engagement.

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In our increasingly disconnected world, third spaces are becoming more important post covid in fostering intentional connection and meaning.

The full concept of the third place encompasses several key elements:

1. Neutrality: Third places are neutral ground where individuals can come and go as they please, without obligation or social pressure. These are spaces where you can exist outside the bounds of social structures.
2. Leveling: Social hierarchies are flattened in third places, allowing for more genuine interactions across diverse groups.
3. Conversation: The primary activity in third places is conversation, fostering connection and idea exchange.
4. Accessibility: Third places should be easily accessible and accommodating to regulars and newcomers alike.
5. Low profile: These spaces maintain a comfortable, homey atmosphere without pretension.
6. Playful mood: A lighthearted, playful atmosphere encourages open expression and creativity.
7. Home away from home: Third places provide a sense of rootedness and belonging outside of one’s private residence.

The need for a safe third place is fundamental to human well-being and personal growth. Humans who have access to such spaces tend to experience:

1. Enhanced self-discovery: Third places provide opportunities for individuals to explore different facets of their personalities in a supportive environment.
2. Increased authenticity: The relaxed atmosphere of third places allows people to be their true selves without fear of judgment.
3. Expanded perspectives: Interaction with diverse groups in third places broadens one’s worldview and enhances empathy.
4. Stress relief: Third places offer a respite from the pressures of work and home life, promoting mental well-being.
5. Community building: Regular interactions in third places foster a sense of belonging and community connection.
6. Personal growth: The conversations and experiences in third places often spark new ideas and personal insights.

Everyone needs a safe third place to truly thrive and live authentically. These spaces provide real-world environments for individuals to practice self-expression and build meaningful connections.

In our increasingly digital world, virtual third places can also exist. Online communities, when cultivated with intention, can provide many of the same benefits as physical third places.

Here’s a list of 7 common Third places:

1. Coffee shops and cafes
2. Libraries
3. Parks and public gardens
4. Community centers
5. Bookstores
6. Pubs and bars
7. Barbershops and hair salons

As I think about how this applies to myself — my home is my first place where I also sometimes work, my family home is my second place, my third is my church community and then I rotate between the library, beach, bookstores, hair salon, and nail salon to name a few places where I find great connection with others.

So, what’s your third place? If you have ideas not listed, let me know — I’m always down to try something new.

If you want to chat, book time with me.

Love,

Sasha Mack

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Sasha Mack, a graduate of Cornell University with a BA and an MBA from the University of Michigan’s Ross School of Business, is a multifaceted professional who seamlessly blends business acumen with artistic creativity and personal development coaching. Born and raised in Fairfield, Connecticut, Mack has leveraged her education and experiences to make significant contributions in various fields. Her professional journey includes roles at Bridgewater Associates and Meta, board membership at a non-profit and private school, and involvement with Lawyers for Children. As an accomplished artist, Mack is known for her unique handmade creations, particularly her “Black Sheep Collection,” which explores themes of individuality and non-conformity. Additionally, she works as an authenticity coach, helping others uncover their purpose and passion. Mack’s diverse achievements, from academic excellence to artistic innovation, reflect her commitment to personal growth and positive impact in both business and community spheres.

www.sashamack.com

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