How To Be a Winner and Not a Whiner: The Only Mindset Shift You Will Ever Need

Don’t feel stuck. You (too) have unfair advantages.

Anirban Kar
Awakened Millennial
7 min readApr 7, 2022


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Aren’t you sick of feeling like you are not good enough?

Does your whole life feel like a wicked prank?

All the good stuff is either already been taken by people more successful than you or is too far away from your reach. They are the special ones, aren’t they? They are lucky, talented, and, most importantly, they have an unfair advantage over everyone else.

Then there are guys like you and me.

Too weak, too poor. And to make things even worse, we are aging faster than racist tweets. At this pace, we will end up wasting our lives just like the drunk guy in a bar fight.

But what if you are wrong? What if you too have your own secret set of unfair advantages?

Sounds good to be true? It’s a lot simpler than you think.

Don’t worry! I won’t fool you with vague philosophical mambo jumbo or pseudoscience. Here, you will get something much more substantial — much more actionable.

It is going to be so effective that by the time you finish this post, you will instantly feel a lot lighter.

So let’s not waste anymore of your time and get started with what matters the most.

Manage Your Self Defeating Behavioral Pattern Instead of Playing the Victim

Before getting the pipe, start by fixing the holes in the bucket.

Here’s something about the narratives like the one I used in the first half of my intro. They are never helpful.

Mindsets like those are designed to keep us entertained in our loop of mediocrity. Instead of identifying areas to improve upon, we are happy to put the blame elsewhere and act like entitled little c*nts.

That’s how we get a generation that wants to change the world but leaves the dishes dirty.

Let me ask you something. Have you ever seen anyone complain and outrage their way into a better life? I guess not.



Anirban Kar
Awakened Millennial

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