If You Want to Grow Fast, Stop Getting Offended by Other People’s Success

Here’s what to do instead.

Anirban Kar
Awakened Millennial
6 min readMar 29, 2022


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Contrary to what most people say online, comparing-yourself-to-others can be an insanely productive habit.

If done right, it helps us to:

  1. Learn from people who are better than us
  2. Introspect for areas to improve on
  3. Push our limits to be better versions of ourselves

But the problem is we rarely do it right. Instead of approaching it with objectivity and humility, we react with our insecurities.

As a result, it leads us to:

  1. Great jealousy and psychological pain
  2. Doubling down on our ineffective methods and blaming others when we fail
  3. An overall state of self-defeating negativity, clouding our judgments

It makes perfect sense. Blaming, degrading, or character assassinating people who are more successful than you make for a much faster dopamine dose.

In comparison, trying and learning what they are doing right is quite tedious and challenging.

But, that doesn’t change the fact that it is one of the fastest ways to get better at what you are, learn unique sets of practical skills, and be more valuable to the market.

If you invest your time to get it right, it will change your life. If you don’t, you will spend the rest of your life whining when other people live your dreams.

Here’s what you need to know.

How Not To Compare Yourself to Others: A Mini-Guide To Save Your Sanity in the Digital Age

Is it just me, or is everyone trying to come across as some celebrity nowadays? I guess we all know the answer.

It is a good thing then that it doesn’t affect our real lives. Wait… What? It does?

According to a CNBC article:



Anirban Kar
Awakened Millennial

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