5 Ways Men Who Manage Women Treat Us Like Crap

They’re not pulling this shit with other men.

Shannon Ashley
Nov 19, 2018 · 15 min read
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1. Telling us to smile.

What is it about men telling women to smile, anyway? All my life, men have complained that my natural (and neutral) look is too aloof.

2. Assuming we’re overreacting if we voice a concern.

As a conscientious employee, it’s sometimes necessary to relay information your boss doesn’t want to hear. But good luck being the bearer of potentially bad news if you are a female employee speaking to a male boss.

3. Downplaying our knowledge and experience.

If you want to make your business better, it makes sense to collect the input of your people who are doing the actual day-to-day work. Yet I’ve found that I can work at a business for years and still not hold the same weight as a man who’s been around less than half my time.

4. Suggesting we should be “sweet.”

People often describe me as an incredibly sweet person. Trust me, that's no humblebrag--it's simply because I'm shy and introverted, and do my best to be polite to others. I'm doing nothing special, but I dislike conflict, and especially hate being the instigator, so I try to pick my battles. That means two things.

5. Using our personal lives against us.

This one is a little bit more insidious, I think. But time and time again, I've seen male bosses treat men and women differently by making a work issue personal for women. It's one more way to invalidate our experience and feelings. Of course, feelings never have a place in the workplace, right?


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Single mama, fulltime writer, exvangelical. It's not about being flawless, it's about being honest. Top Writer. shannon.ashley.medium@gmail.com

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