Women Aren't Sluts If They Love Sex

And we shouldn't have to be afraid to talk about it.

Shannon Ashley
Mar 26, 2019 · 7 min read

Women need to be able to talk about sex.

There's a big fat stigma surrounding sex and a woman's pleasure. Yes, it gets bigger anytime that woman doesn't fit into a box of preconceived, culturally acceptable hotness.

I want to talk about sex. For real.

And I reject the notion that men are the only ones who can gain prowess or confidence or joy in bed. Women don't exist just to be deflowered, or to "lose" anything, and feel intimate pain all for the pleasure of a man.

There's a whole lot I love about sex.

There's the anticipation. That familiar yearning and the achy fullness in my erogenous zones. I feel ready to touch, explore, and play. I feel lust to be touched.

The way we talk about sex matters.

I have never talked to any of my female friends about these feelings or the joy of sex. It seems our sexuality is somehow less taboo than the actual sex itself. Sexual activity and intimate foreplay are still typically off-limits. We blush and grimace just to mention orgasms, our clits, or to even say something about our bodies "down there."


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Single mama, fulltime writer, exvangelical. It's not about being flawless, it's about being honest. Top Writer. shannon.ashley.medium@gmail.com

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A home for some of my most cringe-worthy tales that have been well-received on Medium.

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