Time (Alone) Will Never Heal Your Wounds

So quit buying into that BS.

Shannon Ashley
Apr 4, 2019 · 4 min read

The Miss Havisham effect

It's Miss Havisham's pain which transforms her into a villain who's determined to achieve her misguided revenge. More to the point, it's her inability to let go of that pain, to move on, and be healed.

How emotional wounds heal

Whatever your wound, time will pass. How you treat your wound as time passes is really up to you, because it isn’t time that heals emotional wounds.

How emotional wounds linger

Everyone is going to be wounded in this life. It’s easy to get fixated on what we think should have happened versus what did happen. It’s so easy to waste years feeling like the victim, or believing we must be helpless.

How we gain perspective

The ability to maintain perspective, or even to find it again after a great wound is much more about our inner maturity and willingness to learn than anything anyone else can teach us.


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Shannon Ashley

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Single mama, fulltime writer, exvangelical. It's not about being flawless, it's about being honest. Top Writer. shannon.ashley.medium@gmail.com

Awkwardly Honest

A home for some of my most cringe-worthy tales that have been well-received on Medium.

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