You Can’t Make Anybody Love You

But you can teach them how to treat you right.

Shannon Ashley
May 1, 2019 · 5 min read

Healthy families make you lucky.

In many ways, I have had a hard life and it used to make me wonder what it must be like to never feel completely alone because you always had a stable family to lean on.

Life is not a Disney fairytale or a feel-good movie.

The tragic awkward people are not all going to magically find their tribe. At least, not anytime soon. Trust me, I know.

You can't make people love you.

When you grow up in a dysfunctional family, you naturally spend a lot of time and energy trying to make other people care. Maybe it's guys who just want to get off. Or maybe it's mean girls who want to use you in school for better grades.

You teach people how to treat you.

I used to think this was one of the most annoying statements in the world. It's the last thing anyone wants to hear when they're sick of other people treating them like shit.

You CAN teach people how to treat you well.

But you have to value yourself first. Basically, you teach people to treat you right when you put up boundaries and quit taking their shit.


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Single mama, fulltime writer, exvangelical. It's not about being flawless, it's about being honest. Top Writer. shannon.ashley.medium@gmail.com

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A home for some of my most cringe-worthy tales that have been well-received on Medium.

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